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writes:I masturbate, maybe two or three times a week, I try not to do it so much, because, honestly, it makes me feel really bad about myself, being, that I have a girlfriend. I feel like I'm the worst guy in the world, and it makes me really depressed.I try to stop it, but sometimes, I just can't help.We haven't done anything sexual yet, not because either of us haven't want to, but we're just taking our time, not rushing into anything. I haven't told her, although, a conversation about it came up before, and I felt really akward.Anyway, does this make me a bad boyfriend?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2008): I really don't think that this is bad at all, but I can understand about why you feel a bit guilty afterwards. You're not doing anything wrong particularly, but I would say that you should try not to make it a regular, constant thing, save it all for when you and your girl decide you're both ready. Try not to feel so bad honey, you're doing nothing wrong, but it's lovely you care so much about your girl.
Good luck honey :]
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2008): My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship and we discussed whether or not we masturbate and stuff - he said he did and whilst he enjoyed it, afterwards he felt crap about himself and lonely and bad. I was surprised because I will happily masturbate and see it as a pleasure, a great thing I can do for myself and feel very indulgent and special afterwards. Before my fella moved away I still enjoyed masturbating and I think it helps you understand your body more - keeps you in touch with it. Don't feel bad - you are just keeping the engine running when she's not around ;-) so you can go full throttle when you do see her!
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reader, shelleyanne +, writes (7 February 2008):
 It's good for you. Keep it up.
Work on your communication with your girlfriend. You'll probably be surprised to find that she doesn't mind at all. The only reason masturbation should be a bad thing is when it turns into an obsession like porn addiction or the like.
As it is, however I think you're okay.
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reader, happyholly  +, writes (7 February 2008):
Its not wrong even if you are having sex, its a part of life and a part of sexual life. How do you know she may masterbate herself. I would say if you are both masterbating it will only lead to a better sex life if and when you have sex.
Good luck and you are far from bad.
Holly x
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reader, the cookie sorceress +, writes (7 February 2008):
OK....i cannot stress this enough..YOU ARE NOT A BAD B/F. Masturbation is a touchy subject..but also a very common way to satisfy ones sexual needs. Its cool your not rushing into sex. If the subject comes up again dont make a big deal about it. She wont either. In all truth..masturbation is practice for what feels good for you during sex. So your pretty much just "warming up" hehe. Hope you feel better..happy orgasms!! ..xx..
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reader, korculan queen  +, writes (7 February 2008):
Masturbating whether you have a girlfriend or not is NORMAL. I live apart from my boyfriend and I use a toy when he is not around and I am horny. There is nothing wrong with masturbating. I know the guilt you feel. I came from a Croatian background and sex was always drummed into me to be a dirty thing but honestly I would rather my boyfriend masturbate as many times as he likes and not be with another girl. Go for it mate, enjoy and you will be surprised she probably does it too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2008): Dude, grow up already.
You sound like a 13 year old kid.
Everyone likes firing off some knuckle children now and then. Enjoy it, and it can also turn into mutual mastubation with your woman-friend.
Flynn 24
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