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writes:I was wondering is it good to marry your best friend?I've know this guy since middle school, he is my best friend, and i love him to death. He knows everything about me an vise versa, we talk about everything, and we love spending time together. Basically, though we would do anything for each other. We have talked about a future together since we were in high school. He had to move away for a year, but he had no choice. He's back now, we both attend college, and we are roomates just don't sleep in the same room (my idea). We do have nights where we sometimes sleep in the same room together though. We have talked about marraige once again, but just talking. We say i love you to each other every night and have been close since the day we met. I didn't wait for him while he was gone and he didn't wait for me. We saw other people, but we still talked about being together. He made sure to let me know he was serious about being together one day. If we do end up getting married one day, he's my best friend would it be okay? Someone said we're soulmates. Do you think that's true?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (26 February 2011):
 Are you attracted to him? Can you have a sexual relationship with him?
If yes, then go for it. A marriage with a man you are good friends with have a good foundation for problem-solving, and for making you happy and providing the marriage with what it needs. However, if you are not sexually attracted to him you should not marry him. Sex is not everything, but it matters in a relationship. Or, to be more specific, intimacy matters in a romantic relationship.
You do not need to make your decision now. Maybe in the future he will become sexually attractive to you, and you will fall in love. You are still so young, and there is lots of time to see how things develop.
So for now, don't write it off as impossible, but don't jump into marriage with him right away either. Wait until the moment is right, and everything in it's time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2011): Are you in an exclusive relationship with him? I think you need to be in a committed relationship with him for a year or so before you start thinking about a future together. Some friendships transition nicely into relationships and some don't.
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reader, Miss.Knowitall  +, writes (26 February 2011):
 Ok ask your self this question. I DO believe that your husband should also be your best friend. But you love your friends, it can be just like loving your family. The question is do you see it as more. Could you not feel awkward kissing him and making love to him. Just because you Love someone does not mean you are in love with them.
Stop talking about marriage and try to just be together first.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (26 February 2011):
 Actually this is a question you should be asking yourself.. Are you IN love with him? Not just a friendly love, or a brother/sister love, but an actual passionate, you can't live without him, would love him to be the father of your children one day, married. Have you two ever dated?
Sure it's nice to fantasize about getting married one day, as long as it is to the right person. He may or may not be the right guy for you, but that's for you to decide. I suggest actually becoming boyfriend and girlfriend before you decide on marriage. You can't just go from friendship to marriage and skip the boyfriend/girlfriend part all together. Actually get into a relationship and go from there.
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reader, Jilkey101 +, writes (26 February 2011):
Are you in love?. Being a best friend and being a lover is two seperate things. Your lover can be your best friend. I think when you meet your soul mate you never have to ask the question is he my soul mate. Is there any passion to your relationship?. It would be wonderful to have your husband as your best friend and I believe it is possible but I think you pose a different question. Talk to him and express how you feel and ask yourself are you in love with him and would it make you happy to spend the rest of your life with him. You are also young and it is the first of possibly many relationships so do not rush into something quickly.
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