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male
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anonymous
writes:some please put me out of misery many thanks.I met a beautiful girl through my close girl mate on new years eve. Intelligent (masters in psychology), green eyed bombshell, smart and very attractive. My friend had warned me to be careful because she can flirt for england and is married, however her husband is in prison. For some reason we really got on like a house on fire. She offered me her number and we started texting, calling, went out on nights always holding hands being close and spent some cosey times together. Im not gona lie, i couldnt resist her, she used to let me kiss her and touch her. I was very very drawn towards her. She really pressed the forward button and let me into her life within days!! I knew everything about this girl within 3 days. After 2weeks, she had an attack of morality and just decided to call it off. However after that, we did bump into each other due to having the mutual friend. The mutual friend didnt really get too involved and was always weary about us being in contact but kept her mouth shut. We met one more time end of January (Exactly 1 month later) and just spent couple of hours talking and went for a long drive. Certain remarks like she was happy spending our "1 month anniversary" together. I was surprised that she even remembered its been 1 month since we met each other. After this meet, i never really saw her or spoke to her again. She sent me a text message after i dropped her home, saying "your a special guy and hope you soo get your queen oneday". I texted her a few times after our last meet and i never ever had a reply. i was obviously being ignored and this really got under my skin. I got angry and sent her a final message saying Im moving on, i feel nothing for her. She needs to deal with the situation that her husband is in prison. I advised her to get pregnant with her hubby and maybe a child in their life will make the husband stable and stop commiting crimes. I never recieved a reply. Now....its been 2 months since i seen this woman or had any kind of contact with her. On facebook, I saw one of her best friends(who i rememberd seeing at a party) and messaged her out of curiousity. She was quiet nice and bubbly but didnt recognise me. As soon i reminded her who i was, she told me she cant talk to me because im not longer in contact with her best friend! I respected what she said and left it at that.However, the next morning i had an apology in my inbox and a friendship add. I asked her why she changed her mind, and she said she spoke to her best friend (the wife) and she said it was okay to talk to me because i am a very nice guy and the wife does not have a bad word to say about me.NOW..... for the love of god i dont know why the best friend of a woman i was involved with, is talking to me every day. She talks everyday, She keeps in contact. I asked her whether it bothers her that shes like this, especially when i was involved with her best friend. She said its not a problem to her. Im getting the feeling im being tested or being spied on. The best friend whos in contact with me said she wants to be friends and see where it goes. I find it soo off-key. If i was involved with a woman, i would never ever have intentions of moving onto her friends. Its just something i cant do. I seriously dont know what they are upto! Please help. A very confused man.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (28 March 2011):
 This isn't a confused situation unless you let it be one. Basically the girl you like is married to a prisoner. She feels lonely and neglected, especially if he is a serial offender or on a long stretch inside. She may feel angry that he let himself get into trouble and he may have left her in a position of financial distress. That anger and frustration may have led her to cheat with you. If he is a nasty piece of work then you could be on the end of his baseball bat when he gets out and finds out what is happening. The chances are that you were a crutch to this woman at a difficult time. If she cheats on her husband with you, then you know she would do the same to you if you were in a long-term relationship with her. The friend has probably been sent to 'test you'. Perhaps the friend does want to start dating you, but it would be wise to leave the whole situation alone or you may end up hurt, used and injured if prisoner husband sends his mates around. Frankly there are enough green-eyed bombshell's in the world waiting for the attention of a nice, intelligent bloke such as yourself to avoid this bundle of trouble like the plague.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2011): Maybe this woman you are now in contact with just likes you for you and there is no more to it. I think that, as you had strong feelings for this married woman, you are looking for signs that she is still interested. The truth of it is that she is married and as her husband is 'away' she has sort comfort elsewhere but she knows that it can not go beyond a certain level. If you think you want to pursue a relationship with the friend then fine, its ok, but if you are just doing it to keep a connection with the married woman I would back off.
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