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writes: I dont know if i love my husband anymore we have been married 7 years and have 2 children 1 age 4 and 1 age 3 I dont even want to kiss him or hug him but I am indecisive because this happens after a few years of being with someone and I dont want to go through it all again? Reply to this Question
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reader, beentheredonethat +, writes (11 October 2006):
 Good morning...welcome to the 7 year itch. Many people ask what on earth that is...but it is hard to explain until it has hit you. And though you are right on time...it can happen ANY year of marriage.
Also factor in you have TWO toddlers...yes they are darling....yes you love them.....But if you ever want to know why your parents were nuts....its because they raised you....now you get how mean that curse was....I hope you have one just Like YOU someday!
Some mornings you wake up and cant stand the way your hubby smells...or the hair in his nose....or his eyelids....or your sure he must be related to Satan.....if not ole Harry himself. And when you see that hated feature on your kids....your sure he has genetically ruined them. Guess what.....Its normal.
It will go away....for no apparent reason...one day you will see him doing something....playing with the kids in the surf....mowing the grass....working on the car...and BAM...its all back...just as fast as it went away. Hang in there...the kids won't be young forever and once they hit school...some of the pressure will be off you and it affects your mood....kids drain you...all the time.
Be aware that this will happen to him also...and when they both hit together...well divorce statistics, affairs, even murder can be a consequence if you don't know whats happening.
Do not leave. I know people who were certain they were doing the right thing when this hit them and no amount of convincing would stop them.....and I have listened to the Last seven years of how sad it is that the other one moved on and remarried....and why didn't they listen to everyone and they were never going to find someone as great as he is and the kids hate her because she destroyed their life and hurt their daddy....blah blah blah....
Do something selfish and you have your life to regret. You might not be happy right now...but your decision affects 4 lives...not just one.
one more little tidbit. YOU and ONLY YOU...are 100% responsible for your own happiness. Your husband, children, friends, parents and strangers can NOT...MAKE...you happy. Happy is a choice...just like love is...there are countless pills on the market now because people think something should Make them happy. All they truly have to do is Choose to be happy...and each day give themselves a gift. In the morning wake up and say...Wow...today is going to be an Wonderful day. If you have an attitude expecting good things to visit...they will find your house. Have a great day.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (11 October 2006):
 It's called the 7th year Itch. Wait and see if it passes. I can't count the number of times I've fallen back in love with my husband over the past 30 some years we've been married! Ups and downs but one smooth road. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2006): they said sometimes we have to suffer to stay in the relation for the sake of our children even we dont find
love anymore in between. but how shall that be" life is short and its better to be honest to our self than keep pretending were happy but not... if you think you dont have feeling anymore with the father of your kids try to put some space for a while and think it over. and in the end you realise that you really dont want this relation anymore. then why stay! go" and find your happiness... good luck dear...XXX gladyz...
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