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writes: well i have been married for about 5 years now the first 3 where great but here latly my wife and i all we do is fight and call each other names i come home from a hard days work and she leaves she don't even tell me where she is going and 3 or 4 hours later when she comes back i ask her where she was she tells me none of your bussness i think she is seeing someone eles and to commplicate things further i have fallen for another woman someone please help me Reply to this Question
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reader, lisa_01  +, writes (15 May 2006):
 Ah typical, a relationship becomes rocky and both man and wife seem to think the best way and the easiest way out is to take other avenues instead of fixing there current relationship. She may or may not be cheating, she might be going to yoga or the gym or out with the girls or something but i can tell you that she is probably so awful and cold to you because she knows about this other women of yours and thats why she is not comunicating with you. But I may be wrong she might be cheating but the only way this is going to work is to stop chasing other women and start focusing on your wife, talk to her, have a heart to heart talk with her, setup a dinner just for your too for the night and talk, if she rejects that then you know something is not rite then maybe you should look into what she is up 2 but really you have to wake up to yourself, having feelings for another women while in a relationship is not ok and until you see this the relationship is not going to work. and i can tell you from a womens side of things if i new my man had feelings or spending extra time with another women and not me and giving that attention to someone else id probably be pretty upset and angry aswell. i know this is all easier said then done but if you want this to work with your wife then you both need to stop acting like children, name calling, fighting etc... it sounds like something you would hear in the school yard not in a marriage of 5 years,fighting does not solve anything it just makes us fastrated and angry, i know you must be thinking, why should i do all the hard work? why should i try fix this? well your answer someone has too, she just needs some encoragement, and if you too cant work this out atleast end it before starting new relationships.
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reader, readmychops +, writes (14 May 2006):
i think the best thing is take a week off holiday, go away somewhere on your own where nobody nos you, relax and take time to think think about your wife and this other lady. is your wife loves you you will tell when you get back, my advice dont get involved in another relationship untill you have sorted thins one its not worth the depression or arguments belive me. you make the choice its your life.
kim
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