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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello everyone. So, I've been married a for few months. My husband and I are currently in an LSDR, but he's planning on moving back here soon. Thing is, we both hate it here where I live and where he'd be headed soon. It's a terrible social/economical situation with awful narrow-minded people and we don't like living here at all. Everyhing that keeps me here is my super safe state-based job. I thought of moving to where my husband lives, but I'm not really keen on living there either. Anyway, turns out I've got a job opportunity in Australia. Wow! My husband and I are over the moon and we're applying for a visa and plan on moving there within a year or so. Although I am super excited, I do realize this is a life-changing decision and I wonder: what if (touch wood) we should break up eventually? Would I find myself alone on the other side of the world? What if I don't like the job there and I won't be able to get back my job here? What if we/I don't like it there? So, I'm torn between my heart saying "YAY! Fantastic opportunity to start a new life with the love of your life" and my brain drilling me with all these "all ifs". What do you think? Should I just take the plunge and enjoy the ride? or should I listen to my rational part and reconsider? Thing is, I really don't like living here and the thought of raising my future kids here bothers me. What would you do? Have you ever been through such a huge change in your life? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2013): I think you should ask yourself this: Do you want to turn 40 and look back at your life and say, I wish I'd done this, or I should have done that? I assume your answer is no. So go for it!
Now is the time to do it. You are both still young, you have no kids yet, this is a once in a lifetime opportunity. You have got to look at it as an adventure.
Oh and I recently moved to a new city very far from everything I know. With my boyfriend whom I love. I too thought to myself, what if we break up, I don't want to end up alone in a new place or look back and regret my decision. Well I don't. I always had in the back of my mind that no matter where I am, I can stand alone and regardless of him, this new place is where I want to be right now. Mind you we are still together and so in love. And I love it here. I've met tons of people and am having a great time.
So go for it. I hear Australia is fantastic.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (6 January 2013):
Take the chance it could be the best decision you've ever made.
Australia is supposed to be great and they're nice people.
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