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writes:I have been married for 15 years. For most of those years I have not felt that desire, longing for my husband. I do not feel passion or any sexual desire for him. Within the past 2-3 weeks, I have been talking to someone I graduated high school with. It has been many years. We started talking about getting a class reunion together, and one thing led to another and we fell in love. I feel such a strong bond. He says he does too. He is divorced and will accept me and my two children whenever I decide to make that move. I told my husband that i am not in love and want to see this new person. I don't have the heart to tell him that we are in love. I want to do recreational things with him that I never wanted to do with my husband..football..hiking, etc. The BIG obstacle is that my 15 year old son told me he woulod not have a relationship with me if I left.I don't wan to give up the chance for true love, but I don't want to lose my son, or 11 year old daughter.Please help.
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reader, lovemy3girls +, writes (16 September 2009):
That's a hard one. I understand how you feel I was married and he 3 kids. I started talking to my current fiance during the time of my marriage. I tried to stay away but I couldn't. We went to high school together but never really talked. we began talking and really hit off. Nextthing I knew we were spending a lot of time together. I then had to tell my husband that I no longer wanted to be with him. I moved out and moved in with my fiance. I feel that if I never left when I did and if I just blew off the fact that I met an amazing guy I would not be happy. I never felt so complete a I do now. Your kids are just gonna have to understand that you were not happy and that this other man makes you truely happy.I was 14 teen when my parents spilt up. I got very angry with my mom I thought she was hurting my dad but she wasn't happy. She left my dad for another man. I did not like him at first but then I saw how happy my mom was for the first time. I knew he would make her happy for the rest of her life and you know what? there still together very happy in love. I know that my fiance is the one its a strong feeling I have. Just remember true love only comes once if you miss it then that could be the end. You need to do what makes you happy and your kids need to understand that. They love you they have to understand
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reader, Libra1963  +, writes (16 September 2009):
 If you are not happy in your relationship, get out of it. You only have one life. It sounds like you have tried with your current relationship.
Your children will come round. They need to understand that you just want to be happy.
If you find happiness grab it with both hands and hold it tightly.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2009): don't mess up your kids lives just because you have an itch needing to be scratched. rather leave them with their father who will be there for them.
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