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writes: I am 42, and i have been married for 18 years. My wife (41) is the only sexual partner i have ever had, maybe because i have never pushed to bed someone else or i have always had all i need. About 7 years ago i noticed a woman that works in the same company as myself and i have always thought about her, since my promotion 15 months ago we have worked closer and i think about her always. She looks upon me as a friend and someone to talk to in confidence, and i think she is beautiful. She is divorced and has been for over 5 years. My wife and i do not have the same spark we used to have and no matter what i try its never right. Any forms of affection or intimacy are always started by me maybe because i have a high sex drive, there have been a couple of years gone by where i have thought about breaking up my marriage but kept going because of our two sons (15 ,17). Can you advise me is it a whim am i frustrated confused or how do i know i am thinking about something that will never happen. I don't want to ruin a good friendship by making my feelings known to her and it may not help in work, i also don't want to upset my wife if there is nothing in itplease advise meJ
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2005): Get things in to perspective, this woman thinks of you as a friend, thats all.You may not have the same spark with your wife, but that dosent give you the right to disrespect her and that is what you are doing. How would you feel if it was your wife having these feelings for another man??Do you really want to risk losing your wife and upsetting your children?Try to put some spark back into your marriage, taking her out for candlelit meals, something that may indicate a little romance, make her feel that she is still special to you even after all these years.And stop obsessing over this woman who clearly does not share the same feelings as you.Your family is much more important.Good luck
A reader, Wise Worm, writes (6 January 2005): You don't want to upset your wife if there is nothing in it???!!!???Are you happy with your wife?Do you love your two sons?Are you willing to lose your wife, sons, because you think this woman will give you more sexual attention. It will last exactly 4 months. Then it starts fading, thats when the work starts. You have worked on your marriage for 18 years, or have you just been married for 18 years. I would suggest talk to your wife first, try to resolve this thing, if possible talk to your female friend, if she can confide in you, tell her you really want to make tings work with your wife...or if you are just looking for someone to tell you to follow your heart.....forget it, you married your wife 18 years ago, promising that you will stick it through thich and thin... try at least if then you see, it won't work go ahead and court your friend.
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