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writes:What should I do? My sister has meddled in my relationships for years including my marriage. She became his confidant and he ran to her with loads of stories, none of them good for years. My marriage came to an end, not because of her, but her interference didn't help. Very quickly my husband found himself a new girlfriend and now I find out he has been staying with her at my sisters. Our break up only happened less than a year ago. I am at a loss. Not only have I lost my marriage, but my sister too. Reply to this Question
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (10 February 2015):
Thank you County for following up. :) Happy trails young lady. :)
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reader, County +, writes (10 February 2015):
County is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Brownwolf I was thinking pretty much along the same lines as you. They have been waiting for me to react but I realise if I get drawn in it will only aide their agenda. My sister has made it plain she values his friendship way over mine and good luck to her. He only has friends through my family and would have none of his own to show to his new girlfriend as he was spending most of his time chasing women and then denying his unfaithfulness to me. Eventually they will see his true colours but by then I will have moved further on with my new life. I think your advice to move on as if you were never married is spot on as he treated me as if he were still single,he didn't put me and the kids first he put himself first financially and emotionally. The upside is that he has done more with our children in the last year than in the previous 10. Thank you again
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reader, BrownWolf +, writes (10 February 2015):
I normally encourage people to fight for their marriages. However, yours has a little extra evil added to it...your sister. Worst kind of enemy is the one right in your own family.To save yourself from being dragged into a life of never ending pain...this is one you stay away from.Your sister's house has become a nest of misery. Your husband wants this, your sister encourages this, and the new lady is enjoying this. You need to stay as far away from that tri-factor as possible.The best way to get past this is to move on with your life as if you were never married. Nothing pisses misery off more than to see that it has not affect on you. They will do their best to keep you sad and miserable. They will spread hurtful things about you, and laugh at you, and flaunt it at you.You stand your ground and live happy and at peace with yourself...and watch how mad they get when all they do has no affect on you.Don't be angry, don't hate, don't be resentful...even if you were, what good would it do? So why waste your time and energy?Sometimes the best way to win is to sit back watch others destroy themselves.
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