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writes: I am 23 and I've always had a best guy friend. Let's call him Chet. Two weeks ago Chet's girlfriend of 3 years broke up with him without an explanation. Chet came to me all teary eyed and i know it must of hit him hard cause he never cries. I basically told him that he didn't need her and that he is a great, wonderful guy which is true. Well it was all friend-like until we locked eyes__ never like we locked eyes before. And out of nowhere he kissed me. It caught me by surprise at first and I pulled away. He tried to say he was sorry, but before he could I kissed him deeper in the middle of his sentence which even caught me by surprise. We started making out and it was really good__ until I started unbuttoning his pants__ I freaked and stopped. I mean he is my best friend since childhood__ who wet the bed till he was nine and who i played freak-ish monster with. After i stopped I guess he understood why cause noneof us could speak words. We sat on my couch for a while just staring at each other. Until he finally just got up and left only with a quick goodbye without Chet even making eye contact with me. I've seen him since then he's very short and it's been well akaward. We haven't talked about what happened. I'm really not sure of my feelings toward him anymore. If I love him as a friend or romantically. I've even been thinking that I might have loved him romantically all along. Should i go for him, should i just wait till things ease up. What should i do?
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reader, IzzyStradlin +, writes (13 August 2006):
Well this is rather tricky. My honest opinion is call him up ask him if he can come round so you guys can hang out. Get a nice bottle of wine and DVD, maybe a pizza. Figure out how you feel about him first. If you feel you do love him romantically go for it. tell him how you feel. tell him you've been thinking about it a lot and hope for the best. If you decide you don't feel that way about him sit him down and tell him you've thought about what happened and really want to stay friends and want to get rid of this awkardness between you guys. Hope this helped and best of luck!
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