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female
age
41-50,
*ambi1980
writes:I met a guy about October last year and it started off quite casual. We started to see each other more and from January it has become more serious with us spending time together and classing ourselves as a couple. He's very inexperienced in relationships even though he is 33. I don't think he's ever had a proper girlfriend and he still lives at home with his parents. At first I found this refreshing and sweet but now it's starting to bug me a little. I don't mean to sound cruel because he's a nice guy but I can't get him to open up to me. Whenever we go anywhere it's difficult to make conversation and he's very quiet. I am finding that it's always me asking him about his life and his family/friends but he barely asks anything about me. I have been upset that he hasn't even asked me about the death of my mother even though it happened when I was a child, it's obviously a very significant event that's had a profound effect on me. I questioned him about this and he said he doesn't want to upset me by asking but I take this as lack of interest. He has recently said that he loves me and thinks the world of me but only says this occasionally. Over the past few weeks after nights out together we have argued because I find fault in him and the drink doesn't help. He feels like he can't do right because I criticise him. I just wish he would wake up a bit and see that he has a nice attractive girl on his arm. He has been single for years and I think he has got into a rut of just going out with the lads and being on his own. He doesn't know how to act in restaurants or bars when we go out alone. It's sweet but annoying to me and I'm finding myself nit-picking. I do want to make a go of it with him but it seems to be going downhill. How can I get him to show me more attention and interest without coming across like I'm criticising him.
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