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writes:I'm fifteen and am going out with a sixteen year old. I'm a virgin and I know that he isn't. He just recently asked me out, and I asked him to maybe wait a little. He really didn't want to but he said he would wait, for me. He also said people don't wait for relationships, they wait for sex which he's "okay with".We're not technically dating quite yet, although he considers us to be. But I was wondering if I should wait to have sex with him too. I feel like I'm asking a lot from him. I wouldn't mind having sex with him. But I would want a commitment, but I'm not completely sure I want a commitment just yet-- freshman year because it wont mean as much as it would if we were a little older.So should i go out with him, have sex with him now? Like my lust is telling me to?Or have some control and wait like my emotions are telling me to? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 January 2010):
No. I have the feeling he's after you for sex and nothing else. Plus at this time you're too young (I'm pretty certain the age is 16). Have some control and get to know him a lot more. You don't want to end up used.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2010): You're not asking too much of him. What you want to do with yourself is entirely up to you and if he wants you then he has to follow your rules. If he wants a girl who doesn't ask him to do anything for her then he needs to go elsewhere, simple as that. So you're not asking too much, there's no rules for how to have a relationship. There's some good pointers, but no rules on what is asking too much or not. I think it's okay to ask him to wait before going into a relationship too. I mean why not. You want time to figure out if you want to date this guy or not. Actually it's quite sensible to take some time and think about his proposal (to be a couple, not to marry). Being with him will put you in a new situation, for example one where you have to consider whether or not you want sex with him. Perhaps you'd rather not think about these things yet? Also, there is no rule at all saying there must be sex in a relationship. Especially not with young people. I can't tell you what to do, because thats entirely up to how you feel. But you shouldn't feel bad for asking him to wait while you do some thinking.
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