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writes:dear cupid,i only was marry for 11 months but since the beginig of the marriage i catch my husband waching porno, so for me that's was a red flag (my husband was a bachelor for almost 47 years he was never commited to any seious relationship)so we begin to go to marriage concil for, almost for 6 months and he told me that hejust once before marring me, feel lust for me and then never had lust for me because i wasnt he's body type, but he really wanted to continue the marriage because he love me ....he say that he only can love or lust a woman not both, i feel humilliated and left him..what kind of psychiatric disorder is this with him?
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (30 August 2009):
 Porn has ruined many relationships. It can infiltrate the life of anyone. Not just men but women as well. What is worse it can be and most often is very addicting. To make things worse, every time you get on the internet it usually is thrust right into your face. This in itself can cause a whole host of problems.
The main problem to start with is the chemicals that are released in the brain during sex that cause the euphoric feelings can also be released by masturbation. The brain does not care what method is used for this release but most guys will use the easiest way to cause the release which causes cause with ones mate to suffer.
Bear in mind though that it is extremely easy to get caught up in it and the addiction is so strong that it has often been compared to a cocain addiction. So don't blame him for this kind of trouble but if you can find it within yourself to do so, offer help and support. Often a trusted friend or minister or even a psychologist or therapist can be very helpful. I hope you will consider it for the both of you. You must love each other or you would not have married in the first place, correct? When you said your marriage vows didn't you promise "For better or for worse?"
So now that you are seeing him at his worse..Are you going to forget your promise to him when he needs your help the most, and turn tail and run? Think about it. Doc
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