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writes:ok, I'm in a dilemma. I like this guy and he says he likes me too, but he has a gf that he has been on and off with for three years. The complicated thing is that in between their relationship she was married and had 3 kids.(He has no kids with her) She is still married though he says that he can't really ever be serious with her because she is still married, but they are living together. I am in the process of joining the military and he claims when I return from training we will be together officially. I don't know whether to keep pursuing the relationship and see how it will end u or just end the affair all together. Can someone please give me some advise on this?Thanks,
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2009): What you tell of him sounds to me as something of a disorderly living, and for one you might have more success dating someone with a more ordered life, this on going "on-again off-again" relationship isn't a great sign, I would like to know if he is happy in this yo-yo affair. Let's forget this. Is he waiting for you to complete your training while still living with his married lover? And he says he "can't really ever be serious with her because she is still married" - but what if she divorces, I would ask? Just some food for thought if you want to pursue this relationship. The decision is yours. I'd say that many things can happen during your departure, who knows, maybe you will like someone else, I don't know if you should tie your heart to one place if you aren't convinced (since you are asking this question) and I feel you have much to find out and experience; many of those who enroll do like to have a warm place to return to but think this through. It could be beneficial to you. If you really want to be with him I'd advise deciding at your return. Many things can change until then - depending on the time you are away among others. All the best.
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reader, yankit +, writes (18 November 2009):
From my male perspective, he'll NEVER be a faithful partner if he is this wishy-washy now. I'd find someone that loves me for me and not my level of patience
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