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writes:ok, this is the first time ive done this. so here it goes.i met this girl, and for a couple weeks we flirted and just kind of picked on each other.it finally came about that we liked each other, so we started hanging out. we went on a couple dates. she lives 4 hours away from me, so she would come visit every other week, for a week or 2 at a time. i knew i was in love with her from the first time we kissed. i could just feel it. one day she told me that she had fallen in love with me. and i expressed my emotions to her. and for the next couple months everything was amazing. she has a 2 year old daughter who started calling me daddy, and i love her like she is my own. we found out that she was pregnant, after only being together for a couple months. i was extatic, and she was trying to get happy. well she would always write me little love notes and tell me how perfect i am for her and our family, and she is so in love. she told me she could never picture herself with anyone else. she went to louisiana for 10 days to spend time with her family, and the day before she came back, she broke up with me. she told me she never wanted me or our child, and she never wanted this family. she said she was never in love with me. i dont understand what i did that changed her mind. i always treated her like a princess. now im faced with the fact that the one i love doesnt love me back, and the little girl who calls me daddy, i barely get to see. i myself come from a broken family, and now my son is going to have a broken family. i dont know what to do. please give me some advice.....:/
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reader, rcn +, writes (10 August 2009):
 I agree it seems salvageable. Where is her daughters father through all this? If you could elaborate further.
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reader, joshdtf +, writes (10 August 2009):
joshdtf is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno the child is not born yet. it will be my first child, and my first son at that. me and the girl are talking, she told me she loves me once after she broke up with me. and i saw her yesterday for a doctors appointment for our unborn son. im very confused, some days she acts like she wants to be with me, but some days she refuses to talk to me. theres so many extra things she did for our relationship, and i dont understand how it changed so fast. we are both young, but mature. well she is kind of immature, but i just feel lost. her daughter called me daddy again today, and it kills me. its like all of my dreams were coming true, and they were all a lie. she tells me her daughter only calls me daddy because she is confused. and that may be true. but it still hurts for her to be so cruel.
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reader, rcn +, writes (10 August 2009):
I agree with the other poster. This is sad.
What I'm wondering though is who got a hold of her in Louisiana? Reason being, if this was how she felt the whole time, I believe she would have expressed those feelings or not allowed your relationship to progress further than her actual feelings.
We read on here often just how manipulative people can be to another. Is your child born yet? I'm questioning the intent of whoever got to her if that's what took place. I'm wondering if they are talking her into something other than raising the child. I urge you to register your name on the paternity registry in your state. This notifies you and blocks any legal process which could affect paternity. I'm not saying she would, but this would protect you, just in case.
The way she said what she did sounds like someone influenced this decision. I'd give her some space, and see what happens after she gets back home.
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