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writes: Here's the story, I'm a 21-year-old married university student. I have been married to my wife on 25th Dec 2003, she is 29 and let's call her Joyce, with whom I am now resided. I love her so dearly that I would do anything for her. But I met this young lady (Tina), 19, from university and I have felt some form of attraction. There is a lot of eye contact and smiling. Whenever I make a joke, she is laughing and it makes me happy. It pains me to say this but I can't stop thinking about Tina. Joyce does everything at home, cooking, cleaning, washing, etc. I feel so guilty about liking someone else. Here's the big thing, I've cheated before when I was drunk one night, which I told her about, she was so distraught but she forgave me. I know I don't deserve it but I'm over the moon. I don't want this to happen again, as the feelings for my wife are so vast - but the more I think about Tina, the more I want to ask her for her number. Please help!
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Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A reader, Arawn, writes (10 February 2005): Every decision has consequences.If you make-a-move with this girl then you have decided so. You have learned through bitter experience that defences can be low when you are drunk. This cannot again be a reason/excuse. So.. it's up to your conscience. You know what the risks are. A daft dealing with a teenager will really hurt, and I mean really hurt the one you say you love. Do you really want to make the decision to hurt her? Do you think you could decide to hurt her parents? Do you want to hurt your parents? There is nothing wrong with being attracted to other women but it is a very cold, harsh reality that will meet you if you deliberately break up a marriage by acting upon crushes on wee lassies.I have seen 3 folk in the same position that have acted upon their lustfull feelings, one has lost his house and two other guys, given a couple of beers in them, regret their actions desperately.Don't think you can get away with it. Such things have away of 'getting out'. No matter what yer mates might say. Beit from your own drunken admission, being caught on the phone or caught through any wee silly thing that crops up throughout you and your wife's life together.If you love your wife then just don't!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2005): Have some self control and some respect for your wife, she does not deserve this AGAIN!!!You got a second chance and you're gonna blow it, if you're not careful.You know how you made your wife feel the first time you did it, do you really want to put her through it again?Its OK to think of someone of the opposite sex attractive, but that is where it has to end, you chose to be married to this woman. That's life, get over it, and show your wife some respect.
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