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female
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30-35,
*oreverlove
writes:My best mate told me he was gay about 6 months ago now. It was really hard for me to take as I've fancied him for ages. I've finally accepted there is nothing I can do about it. But then tonight he's said he doesn't think he wants to be gay anymore. Again this is hard for me!! But I can see the signs, everyone thinks we will make a great couple. He gets jelous when I talk about other boys too much and he also likes to know he is wanted. We also have this thing that he is number 1 in my life forever and I'm number 1 in his life. I don't know what to do now? Please help what would you do if this happened to you? He's my bestest ever mate and I love him to bits.
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reader, mandee19  +, writes (15 October 2010):
I was in a similar situation. If he is sexually attracted to you then you should date and see where it goes from there. If he is sexually attracted to guys, then there's nothing you can do about it but keep being friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): If I was in your position, I would rid myself of any romantic feelings for him.
Saying that he doesn't want to be gay anymore is something he has no control over. He can convince himself he's not, he can act like he isn't, but I'm sure as his best friend you would want the best for him, and that might be encouraging him to be himself and not to be scared of being different.
However, it sounds like he's capable of having feelings for both sexes. But still, I wouldn't act on any feelings until he works out what he wants.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): So? What if he does turn out to be gay? You're best friends! You should be there for him no matter what, you're #1 in each other's lives! It sounds like hes confused right now, and he just needs somebody to talk to, so listen, and help him through this while he is trying to figure out who he is. Good luck. :]
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