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female
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30-35,
*abyminow
writes:please help me. i dont know what to do. i have fallen head over hills for my best friend. and i just cant stop thinking about it. i think about him constantly, and i find myself wanting to txt him or just talk to him that way i feel close to him. i dream about him, and get the biggest butterflies in the world when i hear his name, or his voice, or his smile. the thing is i dont know if he feels the same. and to be honest i am to chicken to talk to him about it. last time i liked a friend (not a close one, this one is very close) i dont want to sound slutty by sayn i like my friends, but last time it cause so so so much drama and i dont even talk to him ne more. i dont want this to happen with this guy, i love him, and i dont want to loose him. i just dont know what to do. please help me.
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reader, BRITTBABII2 +, writes (28 December 2008):
Don't just come right out and say I like you. Just ask simple questions beating around the bush since he is your best friend then you can talk to him almost about anything. Ask him if he finds you attractive and would he ever date you and if he asks why just say your asking in a friendly way if he answers yes to both then I think you should say well i kind of like you but I don't want anything weird to go down if you don't feel the same way. [besides I've heard that if you're afraid to do anything with your best friend then they aren't your best friend at all]
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (28 December 2008):
 This is what young girls do. They tend to easily fall so much in love with some guy at a young age (including up to around the age of 25 years in many cases), and it is of tremendous advantage to the guys. Girls are emotional and caring. They are so vulnerable. Some guys may also be caring, but most are very polygamous at a young age. In other words, most attractive guys are focused on adding notches to their belt - getting laid by as many young girls as possible. It is this major disparity in purpose and intent that girls simply do not understand, in my opinion. And that is why so many young women become broken-hearted, impregnated at a young age, abandoned with child, abused, financially impoverished, uneducated and in desperate situations. You can take it or leave it, but I'm an older man who has been around the block quite a few times, and nothing ever really changes. The only sensible answer regarding "what to do" is to resist the sexual temptations until you are much older, more mature and considerably wiser. You will be glad you did.
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reader, egrl202 +, writes (28 December 2008):
Hey i know exactly how you feel, think of why you like him, and what he does for you and are your reasons for liking him legit? If so , If you say he is your best friend, pull him aside one day, and tell him discretely, its just a crush. Dont drop the "L" bomb on him. At least wait a few years. And remember that if the two of you are meant to be together you will be if not you will not. Relationships cannot be forced. Peace
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