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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have this love/hate/break-up/make-up relationship, but he is always the one breaking-up with me because I can't "handle my emotions" and "I'm crazy". I'm going through a really rough time ( don't have a car/job/live with my parents) life just sucks rights now. Yeah, I probably am overly emotional at times, but should he break up with me? When we're together...um like 3 days ago we were that madly in love couple, now after our most recent fight he's driving me nuts. He's telling me he can't be with me right now, he loves me, but he wants me to focus on my emotions and why I cry everyday. So, I asked if we were broken-up, and he's like "It's whatever you want it to be." I asked him "if he needs time," and he said, "you are the one that needs time." I dunno, I don't think he gets the majority of my tears are over our relationship, and it's driving me NUTS that he is putting me in limbo. Should I take that as a break-up? I'm sure he's gonna call me once he cools off. What the hell!?!There is no doubt in my mind that he loves me. This past week he wrote me 3 letters, just to tell reassure me. I feel like a nutcase for always getting mad at him. What's the best thing I can do in this situation? 1.) Move on 2.) prove to him I can me independent and focus on my happiness for the next week 3.) Get him to talk to me more about where he stands.I feel like I'm getting an ulcer! I don't want to keep on losing him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2009): Girl this break up and get back together is not going to stop at all. When ever he feels insecure and wants to leave he knows he can for a while and comes back. He knows how to get at you maybe there is something more to him breaking up with you so often. If he loved you and you love him yall have to options work it out and stand and your own feet. The choice is yours if you want to keep living like that then ya'll be unhappy.
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reader, rcn +, writes (26 September 2009):
 It's wrong to do the break up, back together, yoyo behavior, but at the same time, sounds like there are some issues that need faced in this relationship. He breaks up then turns it on you, "It's whatever you want it to be" okay then. If that were so, wouldn't you be the first one to say it's over?
Without addressing whether or not you two need to get back together or not. I want to know a little more about what's going on with you? Why so emotional? What's causing these fights? If you two got back together without addressing the other, all the same is going to keep happening.
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