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writes: is it such a big deal to have a love bite?my boyfriend and i went away for the weekdend, friday till monday and it was amazin! we spent all our time in the swimming pool and then back in the shallet we just spent all the rest of our time just enjoyin each others company. it was an amazing time an i have never loved somene as much as i love him. but i came home with a love bite and my mums mate 'who i am rather close to' has seen it and shes told me to keep it covered so my mum doesnt see it! why do people see them as such a big deal? Reply to this Question
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reader, korculan queen  +, writes (9 April 2008):
Basically it is seen as a big deal due to peoples perception of it looking cheap and an indication of a sexual relationship. To me it is like a dog cocking his leg and peeing to mark his territory. Love bites are a personal thing but I have always found them to be offensive looking but I got love bites only once from a guy and I felt judged by other peoples disgust at them. It is the age young love. What is important at your age is not what people think but what you think. Having said that it is important to take on board what the perception is in the general population but not let the judgement affect you. What is important is that you find yourself in a healthy stable relationship. At your age you are still learning as I am at 35 but my knowledge base is vastly different from yours however that does not mean I am right and you are wrong. I am simply saying that if it felt ok for you and you wanted a love bite then that should not be an issue. Remember your body belongs to you and at any time you can say no to things that make you uncomfortable without fear of critisism from your partner or worse having statements like if you loved me you would not have a problem. In a healthy stable relationship your opinions thoughts and wishes should be freely expressed without compromise. Take care mate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): It's not a huge problem - you should be free to express yourself and if you are in love with this boy then you go for it! However, your mother may not see it that way - and your mum's mate if probably just looking out for you. I don't know what your mum is like, but she may be disapproving, and that is why you were advised to cover up. If you want to be honest with your mother then by all means don't cover it up - but if you'd rather avoid the hassle then I would do as your mum's friend has suggested! Hope that helps! xxxx
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