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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello,I am a 30 year old single woman and I have completely fallen for one of my child`s teachers. I have remained single for so long - not just waiting for the right man for me AND my 2 children (lost their father many years ago when they were just toddlers) but also because I wanted to go back to school and become financially independent. But now I can`t stop thinking about this teacher. He is single and is around my age and we both practice the same faith (important for me and I think for him too). We also have mutual friends (I haven't said anything to them yet). The school is a small private school where many teachers have children who attend and a couple teachers who are actually married to or related to other teachers... So I don`t think it would be a problem if we were to get to know each other and (it is my hope to!) maybe develop a relationship during the summer when school is out. The problem is that I am SO shy and nervous and he seems to be shy and a bit nervous around me too (not other people though). I have caught him staring at me, he smiles at me a lot, laughs and just seems genuinely happy around me. And I just have this feeling that he likes me and is attracted to me, but like me, he is careful about who he gets romantically involved with. My children have even mentioned to me that I should date him because they really like him (they said he kept looking over at me this one time and smiling- I didn't notice though). Despite this, I still have doubts about if he likes me in this way or would even date me. I don't know if I should ask him out.. or see if he wants to hang out as friends.. or if I should just wait for him to say something to me...I can't talk to him without getting so nervous, I don't know how I could ever ask him out! I just know that I have never fallen this hard for a guy before (I guess you could call it 'love at first sight' - for me anyway) and that I am so terrified of being rejected.I don't know what to do or say to him ... any advice is appreciated. Thanks! :)
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (28 March 2012):
 Take a deep breath and ask him if he would like to go get some coffee with you sometime. Nothing ventured nothing gained plus you won't have to wonder anymore.
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