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writes:Hi all hoping for some advise. just Recently been made redundant and I have been on loads of interviews and only a few have got back to me. I feel really depressed and I cant shake this feeling. I go out with friend and go running, but this horrible feeling of self hating will not go away. I just feel rejected. and I know I was good at my job and the whole department has gone, but any ideas how to shake this feeling.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2009): I have been there and it is temporary. find the right medication and push yourself to do aerobic exercises. You will feel better
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2008): I was also laid off, and I cannot shake it either. Like you, I exercise, talk and even continue lunching with co-workers. But ehen they return to work, and I walk home, it hits me like bricks.
The suggestion to start your own business is noble, but in this economy, who is buying? Sure going to work is routine, but you get feedback, are challenged and have colleagues to interact with. You wake up with a place to go.
I can't say I'm the best for advice because I feel like you do, but I will share what I am doing for myself. I am re-tooling my skills so that when the economy picks up, I'm even better than before. I also make sure that any entertainment that I watch is positive, funny, upbeat. Have someone to talk to, but they MUST be positive. Write about how you feel and cry if you need to. I have fallen to my knees and cried. Then I got up and kept going.
There are a lot of uncertainties, and it's not you rather it's economy based. After the election and 4th Quarter, I believe jobs will start trickling back to us. They have to for our society to function!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2008): OK let me tell it how it is. I lost my job twice in 2008 what a year. In the case of layoffs due to restructuring etc... and if a department was wiped out then it was a rational decision I repeat rational purely on behalf of management. Now mgt could have screwed up and that it why partly this happened but a long time ago a famous poet said (the reason of the more powerful is always the better one) so the fact that you are an employee in today's world you are a number and a slave (the mess with the blacks has been transferred to cubicles these days). So you are screwed because you were at risk being an employee with practically no rights when it comes to when your employment ends. We are emotional people, we get attached to our jobs and habits but the field where we can play is not ours even though we might love the game. Having said this you will have to force yourself to see that you are reacting emotionally towards a purely rational deal. It's like punching your PC because it stalls. Well is stalls because of a 100% technical problem. This is life for this generation, and we have to shut up and have our own business at least we can blame mess on ourselves.
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reader, daniellexxxx +, writes (23 October 2008):
 Go see your GP he/she can help you get through things if you leave it it mite follow into bad depression,
good luck.x
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reader, Metroncho  +, writes (23 October 2008):
Possibly you think these sort of situations mean that your not efficient enough or that somehow involve your self esteem. I am afraid all of us are subject to such up and downs, and I suggest you to look at the whole situation as an opportunity for a new start. Maybe this way you can realise a company can not give you always the security you might have expected. Why not take advantage of the situation and start something on your own, or develop those abilities you couldn`t develop because you were busy?
(Don't feel too depressed, just a little is enough!)
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