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writes:well ive been going out with my boyfriend for like 4 months now and im a virgin, we have been talking about having sex lately hes 19 and im 16. weve talked about having sex on valentines day which is like 4 days away, i need some advice really on how to relax before it , im really scared and ive talked to him about it but all he said was that he would be there for me. im really nervous please help ? anybody any tips? does it hurt?thankyou xx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2009): The fact that you're so scared and panicking is proof that you're not ready. There's absolutely nothing wrong with it, just because it's valentine's doesn't mean you have to do anything different- it's about celebrating your current relationship! If you're not ready, you must tell your boyfriend, if he has managed to wait 4 months I'm sure he can wait longer and will respect your decision.
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reader, tux  +, writes (10 February 2009):
 Valentine's Day is a great romantic day. Don't let it go to your head and make a haste judgement just because you think it would be great to lose your virginity on such a romantic day. Remember, You have only been seeing him for 4 months now. Ask yourself this. Will he still be there for you next year?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2009): Ok please sit your self in a room and ask your self is this the guy you really wanna love your V-Card 2? i mean cmon 4 months please dont be stupid this is your choice but your 16.. you have years of your life if u have sex with him you will probaly regret it tbh but if you do carry on and do have sex with him make sure hes wears a condom and dont be scared to say no if he forces you then make sure u make your point
i wish u luck but please think about what your doing..
Connah J Rawlings,
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2009): hmm; lets see. yall have only been dating for 4 months, and thatd be a bad decision, not to be rude or anything, id make it wait.
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reader, shortstuff4789 +, writes (9 February 2009):
 is it really what you want? 4 months is really not a long time, are you prepared to deal with the fact you guys may not stay together forever? i would ask you to seriously consider this. is this really someone you want to give your virginity to? it can take you to a whole new level with him i lost it when i was your age and i really regret it, because now i am with someone i wish i had waited for. i dont mean to be a party pooper i just wanted you to really think. it didnt hurt for me, it was only a little uncomfortable at first, but got better. how much have you 2 done already , if you dont mind me asking. lube is most likely a must, hope to hear from you
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reader, kitty_3 +, writes (9 February 2009):
 keep in mind that you don't have to do it if you don't want to! but i guess i'd recommend listening to music, dancing/ exercising, taking a bath, getting a massage, or anything that relaxes you before! just try to chill out! if he loves you, it'll be fine!
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