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writes:Hi All,You have all guided me so well on some very big issues in the past, so i felt that with this next big drama I am coming to the right place!Basically, with the whole credit crunch dilemma, my partner's company is in danger. It's taken him a while to realize, but now we both know for definite that he is on a sinking ship for sure. We moved away to our quiet area 2 years ago when we had our first child together to get away from the hustle and bustle of the London area where my partner's family live. Since our child was born we have been getting along with them really well and they've been incredibly supportive of us. However, now that it's time to start job hunting again, since we are only tied to this area for the job my partner was in, he wants to start looking for work back near London again and move back to where we left a couple of years ago.I understand why he wants to move there to have the support of his family close by, BUT we did leave there to escape the huge population and the fact that it's a much more dangerous area to live in and there are some of my partner's school friends living in that area that were a bad influence on him. Is keeping our child away from it "wrapping him in cotton wool" and over-protective, or am I being sensible? Is it good to keep a distance from family to allow for better relations in the time that we are together or am i being paranoid? Should i trust my partner to not be wrapped up in the "old crowd" now that we have a baby or will his old habits die hard? The real question is, should we move back to the area we used to live in? We don't really have any friends of family here where we are now, so the only reason we're here is to live in a quieter safer area and for the job which is now disappearing but i'm afraid to move back in case it damages our family dynamic. Help!Thanks in advance for all your thoughts and advice. Anything you can offer will be taken on board and appreciated x
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2008): How is the job market in the area you live in now? I would check out prospects there first. But the bottom line is a paycheck every week! Financial problems can destroy a relationship faster than "old friends." You may have to go where the money is! Trust your husband to be mature and responsible...that's all you can do, right?
It's unfortunate that times are so bad right now for everyone! I wish you the best and hope it all works out!
Britt
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