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writes:Hello i'm 19 years old. I have a guy friend named “E” who I have been friends and next door neighbors with since I was five up until he had to move out with his parents and siblings across town to live at his grandparents house when he was 10 or 11 for certain reasons, so I lost contact with him for about 2-3 years. then one day while I was walking to a nearby grocery store in town I saw him there along with his mom in front of the store and that's how I got in contact with him again, but after I talked with him for the first time in a very long time I find out that his grand parents house is only 3-4 miles away from where I currently live. Yah, so as you can imagine I was pretty ticked off to find that out after all that time, so anyways, after the next three and a half years everything has been fine until something happened again, he and his little brother ended up being taken away from their parents and had to move in with their other grand parents down in another area.So I lost all contact with him again for another 2 years until I find out from one of his other best friends that he got a Facebook account and its been almost a year and a halve since I have been keeping in contact with him via Facebook. Lately I have started to realize that I liked him for a while now so I asked his sister who also has a Facebook account to ask him if he likes me as more then a friend because I was too afraid to take a chance at ruining my friendship with him.when his sister finally gets back to me and she tells me that he said he thinks that im pretty awesome but only as a friend and now I am heartbroken. So what do you think I should do, back of and stop pursuing him or should I tell him how I feel?.
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reader, Abella +, writes (29 July 2015):
 Sounds like your guy friend "E" has suffered some very traumatic relocation events and family upheaval in his life.
He may even be a little reluctant to reach out to anyone after all that he has been through.
That he thinks you are "pretty awesome" if his sister called it right then that is a big plus.
But sometimes guys are not ready for a girl they want to date until they have had a time to "look around" first.
When I think of 19 year olds I know they are more into sport than loyally dating one girl.
And when he was relocated it was possibly confusing and very upsetting to be torn away from one or both of his parents. It might have affected his confidence and his trust in others. He may be fearful of being hurt again in the future.
Don't put your life on hold waiting for him to find the courage to initiate things.
But do keep an eye on what he is interested in and what activities he favours. If you find you like the same things he may notice you more.
You have let his sister know you like him.
So I guess he knows now for sure that you like him.
He may take a little while to catch up to you.
If it is meant to be then your paths will cross again in the future. After all the two of your have met by sheer co-incidence in the past. That can happen again, especially if you can see if he likes the same things as you and may and he may even attend the same event as you - and then you will have something to talk about and share experiences
Stay friendly with his sister but don't expose your emotions too much as if he has not made up his mind yet then a too pushy approach will just drive him away.
Guys like to do the chasing and they like to think it was all their own idea.
Keep up with your own hobbies. Remain positive. Make time for your fitness regime. Maintain contact with your friends. Live your life and enjoy your life. That is a better strategy, for attracting others into your life, than just thinking about him but not living your own life. It also makes for a more interesting person if you keep busy with hobbies, fitness and doing activities than you find enjoyable.
If he starts to get curious about you then he will seek you out and find you
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reader, Slippers  +, writes (16 July 2015):
Honey, I know you will be yo yoing with emotions .. but you must hang on to your pride a lil bit more .. you have already confided in his sister who has asked and had the courtesy of mailing you and letting you know that though he finds you "awesome" . He doesn't see you as being anything more .. that's a bummer . But if you Facebook him, all your going to do is put pressure on a friendship that may never recover if you do
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