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anonymous
writes:I've been in an LDR with a guy for over a year now. He lives in the UK and it's getting harder and harder to cope with him being so far away. He's come to see me a couple of times, and I was going to go visit him but it was bad timing.He's always been really nice to me, but he wants me to go live with him for 6 mo/1 year, and I'm not sure I want that. I've just started college, I don't think now's a good time to be bouncing between COUNTRIES.But I don't want things to stay like this for years, it makes me really unhappy. I'm not the happiest person, but this isn't helping any.It's nice to have someone who cares about you as much as he does. I want to be with him (in the same place), but right now the only options are either go between countries every year or so, or only see him in person a few weeks out of the year. I don't really like either of those options.He wants to keep trying, but I guess THE QUESTION Im trying to ask isShould I break up with him because the LD part of LDR is making me unhappy, or should I try and be more open-minded about things and try to work things out? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2011): Hey sorry about the toughness of your situation. I was in the same position although not as far as you but I still lived about 5 hours by flight from my ex. Anyways I guess you have to ask yourself if that person is special and good enough that you'll toughen it out and hopefully one day be together. However, if this whole situation is making you unhappy as you say then there might be no other solution then ending things with him. It sounds like you're tired of this whole LD aspect of the relationship. LDR takes a lot of work and trust between two people in order for it to work out well. One of the few things I did enjoy out of my LDR was the fact that every time I saw her it was pure magic and just made it so much sweeter to spend quality time with her. If you really love him and care about him deeply and definitely see a future with him then I would just talk to him and explain how you're feeling.
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