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writes:Right, so, I'm not too sure how to begin this, so sorry if this doesn't make sense at first. I'm a 14-year-old girl who is either on a break, or has been dumped by her boyfriend of 19 months. He broke up with me; or whatever it was [I'm still not sure] on the 10th November. I'll admit that I've been completely miserable since this happened. My grades have dropped (not good seeing as I'm a GCSE student), I'm pretty sure my depression has returned (I've never been diagnosed, but I've experienced most of the symptons. I was also pretty sure I'd gotten over it.), and everything irritates me, including my friends and family who're always bringing my relationship up. I know they mean well and are worried about me, but I really don't want to talk about it. From what I've heard, this is perfectly normal while going through your first break-up. My ex-boyfriend (or whatever he is to me now)was my first love, boyfriend and first kiss. He still means the world to me, and he ended our realtionship (I'm going to add now that he's overseas for college and has just turned 16) because of the long-distance, and because he was worried that I'd spend too much time missing him instead of revising when I have my exams next year. He feels terrible about all of this, and thinks he's "screwed everything up" between us. He means the world to me, and has told me that he still loves me, misses me, and misses being with me; I feel exactly the same about him; yet he won't take me back because he thinks that this break or whatever it is, is for the best. I feel the opposite and I'm scared of losing him. He's coming home in just under 2 weeks, and we're going to hang out and all. And I just don't know what to do. I don't want to try and pressure him into getting back with me, and I don't want to make him miserable. Any advice would be greatly appreciate, thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you :)
We're planning on hanging out and all when he gets back (Which we're both really looking forward to). I think we're going to TRY to just act like friends when he gets back, and I'd much rather that than be cut out of his life completely.
He's mean the world to me.
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reader, katp100  +, writes (4 December 2010):
 hey so im 16 and my ex boyfriend (3 weeks ago) is 16 too
he used to live in newcastle where i live but just after we started dating (wed been together for 11 months) he moved to london.. so we tried to keep the realtionship going as he was like you said my first love, first kiss etcc and i saw him holidays and sometimes if i could go see him or he come to see me . but i moved to college and made new friends etc and changed i guess and he became very controlling which does not work with thelong distance so i eventually broke up with him even though i still loved him and we talk sometimes but things have been so hard for him recetnly with me leaving him and hes not over me and wants me back.. but i have a new boyfriend who is actually 22 and he hates it
and his nan just died and him mums in hospital so he needs me but yeah
well he pressured me to get back with him but i just dnt want to be and he says i screwed us up and ill regret it but i know i wont ...
ok so i think in answer to your question that you should just see where things go and dont pressure at all me and my ex took a break but he saw it as breaking up so we did just break up .. i see what you mean and i think you should just wait til he gets home and see how things are between you, if you want it to work out just take time and dont rush
hope it helped
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