A
female
age
36-40,
*lala
writes:Hi all.. I really need ur opinion bout my problem.I met a French man last year. He was in holiday in my country (in asia). He was a nice man. In the rest 17days in my country, we went evrywhere together, n of course we also made love.In 7days before he came back to France, we almost cried everyday. It was hard for both of us, but he had to come back to work.Then after 6months, he came back here. We had a 1month holiday in an island. This month he visited me again. So he's been already visited me 3times.I feel im in love with him but i still dunno hows his feeling to me. I ever thought maybe he was also in love with me, because he cried almost every two or one week before he went back (well, maybe all of u will laugh at me).Oh yeah, yuo need to know that im 24, and he's 36. I dont make this as a problem, but at some point i think he doubt about my feeling. Maybe he's afraid if i'll take a look at other man.Now we get difficulty to be together because of the crisis. We are not sure if we can meet in 6months. What can I do? I cant go there because im still studying in uni. Im Asian, i dunno what kind of relationship that's usually chosen by European. And i dunno how long he needs to decide to hav serious relationshp. I really dunno.I don't know what to do, I love him but I don't know how to handle this long distance relationship, our cultural and age differences anyone have a similar situation?
View related questions:
long distance Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, @lala +, writes (8 July 2010):
@lala is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank u so much for a female reader, jvjvjvjv,for responding my question.
I really need a proof that LDR can work and you just gave it. It seems that my LDR is more 'easier' than yours. Well, not very easy actually.. But so far Im happy of what i have with him.
Its true that it's difficult to manage to be together, especially when i'm still studying but i work hard to finish my study soon and i will see the possibility to be together with him.
Hm im always very happy to hear this kind of happy story. I hope u'll be happy with your family forever.
A
female
reader, jvjvjvjv  +, writes (28 June 2010):
Your story really reminds me of mine, but the boy I loved was in Asia, and I was in Europe. I was the traveller who would visit him as much as I could (and sometimes that was only once every 18 months), and he was the local boy who for whatever ridiculous country laws and economic differences, was unable to visit me at all. This was before email and text, when LD phone calls were ultra expensive and half the letters never got there. We were different in background, status, education, everything. There was also an age gap, but I was a bit older than him. And frankly I had not much to go on because all around me I could see other LDRs fail. This long distance hope lasted 5 years.Eventually I went to live with him for some months, and after a long battle convincing the authorities that we were genuinely in love, we were able to travel back to my country together. Some months after that, we got married and we now have the most beautiful four year old daughter. Yes, cultural differences have often got in the way, but we are ultimately great friends and we look out for one another. I think it sounds like he definitely loves you and in order for this to continue, he needs to be told quite clearly how you feel. I would still urge you to just be a little cautious. The chances of a LDR working are frankly quite slim, and this is only part of the battle - the real difficulty begins if/when one of you moves permanently to the other's country, and you have a whole new culture to adjust to - not always easy.Having said that, it can work - I'm proof. Best of luck to you both! x
...............................
A
female
reader, @lala +, writes (26 June 2010):
@lala is verified as being by the original poster of the question@lala : Thank u so much for ur opinion. It makes me confident. I ever thought maybe he loved me (becoz he had sacrificed much time n of course money to pay the trip which wasnt cheap just to see me) but i need someone's opinion bout this. U really help me.
Ow ya, i forget to tell u this. Evryday we keep contact by email, sometime by skyping. My fren said that we were crazy bcoz we sent many emails in a day (at least 15-70emails/day).
He has showed my pics to his parents n brother. I hope its a good sign.
I want to finish my study soon, then work then decide wat will i do with him. So far, i dont look at other man, n i dont want. So i hope this LDR works well though we seld0m see each other. Thanks alot.
...............................
A
female
reader, @lala +, writes (26 June 2010):
@lala is verified as being by the original poster of the question@lala : Thank u so much for ur opinion. It makes me confident. I ever thought maybe he loved me (becoz he had sacrificed much time n of course money to pay the trip which wasnt cheap just to see me) but i need someone's opinion bout this. U really help me.
Ow ya, i forget to tell u this. Evryday we keep contact by email, sometime by skyping. My fren said that we were crazy bcoz we sent many emails in a day (at least 15-70emails/day).
He has showed my pics to his parents n brother. I hope its a good sign.
I want to finish my study soon, then work then decide wat will i do with him. So far, i dont look at other man, n i dont want. So i hope this LDR works well though we seld0m see each other. Thanks alot.
...............................
|
