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writes:So I told my crush of 6 years I liked him and he replied "I understand. Bet you feel better now that you got that oft my chest."See he was a good friend. I was dating my ex when this guy and I met. We totally hit it off and since my bf was a truck driver, I always went over to see the crush. We would hang out and talk for hours. One night when getting out of his truck I told him how I get to go home to an empty house. He had leaned over and kissed me on the lips. I was shocked. The next time we hung out we had a few drinks and talked. Nothing was mentioned of any feelings. When my boyfriend I broke up he was the guy I went to for sex. Sometimes I'd fall asleep in his arms. It felt like s relationship just not with the "I love yous". About 6 months later I was dating someone else (btw there were a few times I found out he cheated on his gf with me..) I got pregnant and had a little boy. I finally told my crush how I felt because I couldn't stand it anymore. (My boyfriend treats me like I'm not worth tie air I breathe but I don't know what to do since we have a child. ) that's when my crush said that line. We hardly talk anymore. We never hang out. I figured I waited too long and also because I have a child now... but I still just want to know what his line meant...
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reader, Libra84 +, writes (21 August 2013):
Libra84 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI never cheated on zach with "my crush" I waited till we were broken up and I never cheated on Dave with the crush either. I love how I'm dramatic and shit. I don't sleep around. Its been years between breaking up with zach and dating Dave. Wow you act like it was right after. Maybe I should have put in the years to better clarify things. And my son never met the crush nor the ex. He only knows of his father as a father figure. Please I ain't THAT stupid. I was just wondering on what the line could mean and not be judged by my actions. I'm sure your life has no faults either right?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2013): You sleep around, and are in love with a proven cheater. It's like inciting drama. You should start doing what it's best your your son, he does not need to see his mommy with a parade of new daddy's every time his mommy has a crush.
It's obvious the guy does not feel that way towards you.
Try to not confuse your child, you don't want him to get attached to your crush.
Your life sounds terribly dramatic and unstable. Please for your child's sake try to work on bettering both your lives before venturing in relationships.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2013): "but I still just want to know what his line meant..."
It meant that he enjoyed being FWBs but now that you've confided you have feelings for him on top of having a stay-at-home boyfriend and a kid, you've become too high maintenance to continue cultivating as a piece on the side and so he's letting you down easy.
In other words, he's politely telling you to get lost. Most guys who are cheating on their girlfriends wouldn't be such a situational gentleman in such a situational.
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reader, happy1day  +, writes (20 July 2013):
Ask him what he meant. Its truly the safest option and can't be worse surely that admitting your crush in the first place. No point in analyzing what or why...just ask.
The answer anyone else gives you is a simple guess...the answer anyone else gives may let you feel hope or crush it. The question you ask is for him to answers...if he means enough to you, you've already laid your heart on the line asking for a little clarity should be no big deal, good luck x
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (20 July 2013):
 Your description of what has gone on between you and two different guys has me thinking of a pin-ball in an arcade machine....
YOU are the pinball.... and bounce about... with no evidence of rhyme or reason for what you do... EXCEPT that you delude yourself that one, or both, of these guys "loves" you (EXCEPT without ever SAYING so!!!)....
What better time than now for you to back away from BOTH of these cads?? .... and start making a 'way better life for you and your son???
His "line", incidentally, means and makes no difference. For a guy, we can say ANYTHING - even if it makes no sense - to a girl to just get her to either: 1. Go away, or, 2. continue putting out for us, without asking any further questions or asking for any sort of committment...
Good luck to you and your son....
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