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writes:hello dear readers so i'm with my gf for 3 years and 6 months. Yes i know it's a lot. I just finished graduation so searching for a job. Well my problem is that i caught my gf on different small lies that concerns money. I'm not stupid, every one has money issues and doesn't like to talk about it. But it's the third time since she tells me one story and other ppl tell me another. Well she was born in russia and a couple of times per year she goes there to see her family. Every time my mother gives her 400 or 500 euros to give it to my grandparents ( to help them) Each time my mom gives her 5x100 new euros bills(from bank). And every time when she goes to russia, the money that my mom gave her one of the bills is different from the other once. (it means she baught something on those money.) i don't care, because everytime she gives the correct amount of money to my grand parents with a 2-3 day delay. but when i'm asking her did she spend something from that cash she becomes really angry and offensive. I want to build my life with this girl, but sometimes she lies(and she doesn't know how to do it) and i see that it's not the trueth...I'm sorry for my spelling.thank you
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reader, Arganique  +, writes (3 December 2012):
I went to Russia last year, and when flying back to Canada I was bringing back 400$ American dollars on me, 4 $100 bills. I was bringing this money home. Well, the very nice people that work at Russian security checks, found that my luggage was not 23 kg, but 23.5 kg. They were rude and obnoxious. They said I couldn't empty the .5 kg, because my plane was ready for lift-off, and said I had to pay for the extra luggage otherwise I couldn't make the flight. I know now what I should have done - I should have called the management, it was .5 kg overweight for christsakes! I had to pay them $100 just to let me through. It was the worst experience of my life, and proved to me yet again that I made a good choice to leave that country. This would have never happened in Canada.Just an example on how it is very simple for a girl to be in a situation to have money, and lose it right away. I don't think it's anything to stress over, as long as you gf gave your grandparents that same amount of money, who cares whether it was a new bill or not?
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reader, Arganique +, writes (3 December 2012):
I don't see a problem. She gave them the right amount of money didnt she? Maybe she used the bill to buy something at the duty free or something, but she was honest with your mother and replaced the bill with her own didn't she?
Maybe this was just one of the examples which you put, but it doesn't sound to me like this was a lie on her part.
After 3.5 years you should feel that you can be honest with her. So instead of asking strangers here, approach her, and tell her that you're concerned that you feel that she's being dishonest with you.
Communication is key. If you feel that you cannot communicate this to her perhaps you shouldn't waste each other's time.
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