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26-29,
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writes:So, my closest friend's best friend basically ditched her for her bestfriend and since then we became really close. However now she has just split with her boyfriend of 12 months and the girl who used to be her bestfriend is now saying that she is always there for her and stuff which I thought was nice of her but I also feel jealous and feel like they're going to become best friends again. what should I do?
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (10 August 2012):
One of the quickest ways to spoil a friendship is to get possessive over that friend, and jealous where others try to be there for that person. In some ways, it’s harder to deal with friendship jealousy than it is jealousy in a relationship, because it is expected in a relationship that you will be the only person to have that intimate role in another person’s life. It’s not like that with friendship. All you can do is tell your friend that you too are there for her if she needs it, but don’t criticise her if she takes support from some-one else. Also, how well do you know her other friend that you’re getting jealous of? Could you perhaps try to get a friendship group established so that this girl won’t be in a position where she’s torn between two friends? This would also ensure that you don’t lose your friend just because she renews a friendship with some-one else.
I wish you all the very best.
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