| A ,
anonymous
writes: I have been with my boyfriend for a long time and lately, I have been having some doubts about our relationship. I feel as if I am going to be stuck in one spot with him forever. He never does anything romantic, he hardly tells me he loves me (except when he is in a good mood). But the biggest one is that he is NEVER EVER romantic. Not even on our monthly anniversaries. I think since he is the only guy I have been with for a long time, my feelings for him are starting to be more like me loving him as a best friend and not as a boyfriend. I just feel to guilty to break it off because he needs my help with things. He is still living with his mom, and he is supporting her. I feel like if I break up with him, he'll have nobody to turn to. I'm just stuck! Any advice????
View related questions:
best friend Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (22 May 2005):
 I think that because you have been with your boyfriend for a long time, things have slipped into a rut. The way that you are feeling is perfectly normal. As he isn't romantic, the excitement and shine has faded from your relationship and you feel somewhat trapped.You recognise there are things lacking which in some ways is good because you aren't just completely bored; you realise that if he changed in certain ways, things could possibly improve.I think you need to tell him that you would love it if he surprised you sometimes with a romantic gesture. Flowers, a nice meal, etc. Tell him you feel the relationship is lacking and that you would like it to change. Be honest with him. Say he behaves more like a brother or a friend than your boyfriend and that you feel you are missing out.It may be the case that he won't change, won't compromise or will refuse to acknowledge your concerns. If that is the case, realise that you aren't responsible for his happiness, only your own as he isn't prepared to contribute to your future together.I hope this helps.
|
