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writes:ok so i need help. i'm 18 and i've had a huge crush on my teacher for the last 5 years. it started when i moved into his class in year 2 and now i'm finnished school, excepted i have to go in one last time to hand in some books and that but the problom is i dont know what to say to him.i'm in a realationship and he's married and im not going to be stupid and say 'oh we can be together' if fact i dont want to go out with him. im happy with my bf, maybe if things had been diferent though. i need to say goodbye and yet the thought of never talking to him or even seeing him again makes me cry like cry buckets and it feels like my hearts being ripped apart.i cant stand the thought of leaving and not saying goodbye but when im with him i cant string a simple sentence together (im like mmm... so... yehh) and i dont know what to say anyway. plus with my luck i would start and then break down in his room. i thought i would write a letter but then what would i say.i want to keep in touch even as friends but i cant gain enough corage to ask him. i dont want to keep my crush secret either as when im with him all i think is how im keeping this big secret from him. but what if telling him means he wont stay in contact.help!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you. i guess i was trying to convince myself that since i had left school it would be okay but i guess not. i really dont want to hurt him or his wife (she is a lovly person.
i wont say anything.
as for my bf though i really do love him we've been together for 9 months and i even if my fantasy came true and my teacher was like yehh ok, i would genuinly say no. the only reason i wanted to say so was because i hated keeping this to myself but i actually feel better just having it on here so yehh.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (24 May 2012):
 Ask yourself this? What happens if you tell him? What do you expect will happen? Obviously in your fantasy he goes, "I have a thing for you too." Even then, what happens, someone much older than you cheats on or divorces his wife, loses his job, and ruins his life.
Here's how reality goes. In a best case scenario he becomes awkward and tells you that he can't ever think about a student like that and reassures you that nothing will be weird. After you leave, he makes an effort to have the least amount of contact with you.
There is NOTHING positive that can come from this for anyone. Every single possible scenario is bad. Keep this to yourself. Literally there is NOTHING good that can happen from telling him.
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reader, Tenshikoneko +, writes (24 May 2012):
 You said he's married, right? Don't tell him. If you do, you are being extremely selfish and inconsiderate to their relationship. It's not wrong to like someone, but admitting it in this situation isn't acceptable. Don't burden him with your feelings, it could end up bad for both of you. It could effect his career and his relationship. Nothing is more hurtful for people to step inside the bounds of another relationship. You should consider how confessing might hurt him and his family, and his wife.
You can't really keep in touch as friends with a teacher. They have certain roles and permissions to fufill for their job, and if they were seen with you outside a class it could effect his career, since you have graduated.
I'm not really believing you when you say you're happy with your boyfriend, yet you have all these feelings for him and you even cry about it. Do you think your boyfriend would be happy if you confessed to another man? How do you think this would effect him? You really need to think about others feelings in this situation. Deep down you know what you want. You knew this before you even wrote the question. Did you really expect people to come here and tell you it's okay to confess to him? Re-evaluate the situation, and you know what the right thing to do would be.
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