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writes:I recently had a fight on christmas day with my boyfriend after we've been together for a year and I slapped him, he got mad and left. I called him we argued and he said "you what we should just be friends for a while because I'm tired of fighting", he sounded like he wanted to cry and he said it in a way that I really wasn't sure if I should believe him or not, and a few weeks ago he said he wanted us to go for another year together. He always say I love you and now he is really mad. I called him a few times but he didn't answer or called back so I stopped calling. Should I leave him alone for good or should I just give him time to cool off?
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reader, roadman  +, writes (1 January 2009):
 Time to cool off is a good one..space always helps people work out their own feelings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2008): He's been hurt from you slapping him and the arguments has finally took his toll on him. You should leave him a nice message explaining how you felt and how sorry you are for hurting and slapping him. I have a feeling that when you hit him it had made him see this is the last straw for him. He loves you but he hates the arguments and he is probably feeling hurt and vunerable. The solution to this is to try one last time be open and honest with him and ask him how he is feeling and if he doesn't tell you or open up to you. Tell him your here if he wants to talk and you'll always be here then wait till he gets in touch with you.
Good luck
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reader, nokutenda  +, writes (30 December 2008):
give him time to cool off
tell him you are sorry for slapping him and then let him be
if he doesn't contact you for say 2 weeks leave him for good
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (30 December 2008):
Leave him alone until he calls you. He's probably pretty upset with you. No matter how angry you get at your boyfriend, you shouldn't ever slap him. Unless he calls you something unspeakable and absolutely deserves it. And if that was the case then you should move one.
But it sounds like you guys are young and, well, when you're young, relationships usually consist of a lot of arguing and bickering over nonsense. So give him time to cool off and he'll call you. It's hard, but just give him time. If you keep calling him and pestering him it will only drive him away more.
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