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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes: i feel like i lead a double life. my dad is an expat and i have moved to three different places. my family has always had a view that children should respect their elders,parents are always right,doing well in school is most important, and romantic relationships can only come after uni.when i had a bf my parents were not happy, and even though i still did well at school, they said it was a distraction and that i was too young (16). even now that im 18 they still think the same and i dont. this is driving a wedge between me and my family. i have always felt second best to my older sibling too, and the few times i have brought it up, they have turned it around me saying i exaggerrate and am too emotional and ask me to apologise, when in actual fact its me being completely honest about how i feel. they dont understand or see things the same way i do. they dont understand that even at 18 i have had alcohol and when i told them once they got mad. they dont know ive had a boyfriend for 6 months, and it has been going really well and its an emotional and sexual relationship. i respect my parents, and i love them. but i think they have created this vision of me, and because they dont understand me when i try to explain anything, i just gave up and just became the person they wanted to see in front of them.i feel like two different people. sometimes i want to be completely honest with them, but all the times i have tried, they just dont understand that i did not grow up like them, that i have been exposed to more things that have changed me and my values. i feel guilty and afraid that someday they will wake up and see my as a great dissapointment. Reply to this Question
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