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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year. Things were great and I've fallen deeply in love with him.We met on holiday and decided to have a long distance relationship where we would see each other every 1-2 weeks for about a week.Two weeks ago he started university and that's where everything went down hill.He stopped calling me and texting me. I understood that university was new and exciting and he wanted to go out but he just switched all feelings he had for me off.I kept asking him if he was going to leave me and he promised he wouldn't.One week ago, dispite promising he wouldn't, he split up with me. After a very long late night call I asked him to try again with an open mind. I agreed to give him space and have days where we wouldn't speak to each other.One week later and I've spoken to him for a whole hour this week. He hasn't made time for me and I'm miserable. I don't understand how he could switch his feelings off like that. I could cope with not speaking to him a couple of nights a week but having an hour on the phone per week isn't a relationship.I just wanted advise on what to do. Do I leave him? How I can I leave the man I love? Or how can I get our relationship on track again?I just can't go on feeling so empty and unloved.Thank you
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reader, Miss.Cupid  +, writes (15 October 2013):
 I cant tell you exactly what to do. foruntetly that's not my job here. But I will however give you some advice. Move on.
He is far away, in a university. The fact that he barely talks to you and broke this off from you just gives you the answer itself. His a guy who has guy friends and his in college. A lot of dorm parting, and drinking, and on top of that a lot of homework/studying. If he wanted things to work he would have tried everything. I'm Sorry. I know its not something you want to hear. However if you are hopeful just give it sometime. I'm sure you'll see each other again on holiday vacation, but if he keeps ending things and expecting you to wait while he parties it up. Don't be a fool. Good Luck,
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reader, Aunty Babbit +, writes (13 October 2013):
 I know you want everything to be ok but I can't tell you that.
You had a lovely holiday romance with your bf, it was no doubt exciting, romantic and perhaps a little erotic.
You guys kept it going in an LDR which is nice but it's not the same as being WITH someone.
Your guy has started uni now and is surrounded with new friends, experiences, opportunities and, unfortunately for you, young women.
He probably feels that, as lovely as your holiday romance was and subsequent year in a LDR, he craves something real.
He's a young man, with needs and I think he's decided he wants a girlfriend he can actually "be" with now.
He tried to break it off with you but unfortunately your feelings for him are stronger than his for you and you begged him to take you back and try again.
He cared enough about you not to want to hurt you, take your call AND say he'd give it another go but, my darling, he doesn't want too.
I think he's a lovely guy and doesn't want to hurt you but he needs something more real and in the "now" not a fantasy from holidays past.
I think you should set him free, stop calling him and let him live his life.
I know this will break your heart but I think it's inevitable that this will happen anyway.
Remember the time you had with affection and then live your life.
Also remember that neither of you has done anything wrong.
LDR's are incredibly hard, especially when you're young and life has so many new opportunities for you to experience.
It will take you a while to recover from this but you will eventually recover. Surround yourself with people who love you and will support you.
I hope this helps AB x
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