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30-35,
*esert-rose
writes:So my boyfriend and I have been together in a long distance relationship for a year. My boyfriend is a gamer, he spends most of his time with his friends playing video games all day long. I always feel ignored, i always feel like he'd rather spend his time playing games with his friends rather than talking to me, we could go for days without talking/texting each other, then when i ask him why hasn't he called me, he gives me the typical excuse of either being sick or busy with his uni projects. I sometimes feel like calling me is a really hard heavy task for him to do, he does that in order for me not to complain, and to shut me up if i ever brought up the fact that he gives me no attention at all. I hate calling him first, because whenever i do that, he either doesn't reply or talk to me with a bunch of his friend in the background making it very hard for me to hear anything. This is what happens most of the time, he calls me with a lot of noise in the background. Sometimes i tend to ignore his calls because to be honest i sometimes feel bored when we talk, we have nothing in common, we are both interested in different things. I don't know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2013): sad to say but this is not going anywhere. and please value yourself and find someone who can offer you a quality time. i learned from my own experience that excuses can be used any time but if you appreciate/love somebody you will find ALWAYS time to share/give. So please open your eyes and let this 'game" go. You deserve better and words are words but actions are more important. And you say you are feeling ignored, yes is true you are ignored and you dont deserve it. I had the same situation not too long ago and I decided to leave this man and walk away with my own projects/life. I dont regret. Off course there is sadness and loney some times but there is not a worst thing to feel alone when you "think" you have some one with you.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (17 May 2013):
 "we have nothing in common"
"I don't know what do do"
if you have nothing in common, if he does not call you, if you do not take his calls, why not break up and get a fresh start?
My husband is a MMO gamer and was when we met and became a serious LDR... he still managed daily contact and gave up a lot of game time to be with me on the weekends.
it sounds to me like it's not a good fit and you are just hanging on because of the amount of time you have put into the relationship.
He's not that into you
you're not that into him
time to end it.
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