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writes:Dear Cupid, I really need some advice for this problem. Ok so i have a boyfriend of almost 3 months now. Hes a great guy, whose sweet and funny and cute.(IRONIC i had ended with my ex to go with him, because my ex was being a jerk) However last night i went to a party and a guy asked me to dance. He was soo cute and was a great dancer. We danced all night long. (till 1am lol, he was telling me how when he saw me he was like whoa. And that he liked me eyes and he thought my name was beautiful. During the songs, he would just want to keep his hands on my waist. Well don't worry we didn't kiss or anything, but he did put his # in my phone. Ever since last night, i can't seem to get him off my mind. We have more things in hen my bf and i have common, and His parents are even from the same place as my parents. I don't know what to do, this guy is sweet and very attractive to me, and when i see my boyfriend i don't see that, that's whats lacking in our relationship, i don't feel attractive to him.Another problem is that the guy is 2 years younger then me. I don't know if this is fate or not, but wow i barely knew anyone at the party and i dance with this guy who had sat at our table, who thinks im pretty and happens to be going to the same school as me this year(August). ?Thanks for any advice / tips you may give.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2011): Yeah best thing to do is to wait & see what happens,
Obviously there's more of a connection with you & this new guy, so let's hope things work out
& I see you've added me so just tell me how everything goes! :)
I don't think still staying with your boyfriend would be a good choice
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2011): It is human nature to be attracted to the opposite sex, dancing is harmless, but its what you do with those emottions that make you who you are. Lets say you slept with this guy, is that worth everything else? If your asking about just dancing I would seriously look into what really you want.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (30 May 2011):
 It's destructive to your relationship, as well as unfair, to flirt with another guy. I think you need to focus on what you want, a good relationship with your boyfriend, or to flirt with this other guy. You can't really have both, it's not fair to your boyfriend. It's called emotional cheating when you flirt with and fall for another person when you're already involved with someone. Because even though you say you are taken, you act as if you were single, flirting and actively seeking out other potential boyfriends. Like you're constantly trying to "upgrade" to a better version of a boyfriend. This is treating people like an object, and it's not a good way to behave. You either need to break it off and then flirt and see what happens with new guy, or stop flirting with new guy because you respect your boyfriend.
You can still be friends. Just stop flirting with him, or think that he might be something special. Why did you end up in a relationship with your boyfriend to begin with if you lack so much interest in him? Think hard in this one. If you're not able to stay faithful then you might not be ready to have relationships. When you're committed, you don't look elsewhere.
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reader, SweetLipsX0 +, writes (30 May 2011):
SweetLipsX0 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks everyone for putting good advice, different opinions but it gives me different perspectives to look at. I am getting to know the other guy, & its going good, but its not like im like heyy i love u or anything lol. And for Bernard, i can't just dance with my bf, because he doesn't like to, and idk... i just felt such a great connection with the other guy. But we'll see what well happen over time....?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2011): Okay well the thing is if you don't feel attracted to your boyfriend any more the obvious thing to do would be to break up with him because if he's so great & you don't feel attracted to him then it may be best to put him back on the market for someone who does like him,
As for this new guy, age is just a number but just get to know him as much as you can first, then maybe after atleast a month or two then maybe get with him,
If there's that special connection from that one night then maybe it is meant to be, you'll never know
But good luck I hoped my advice helped a bit :)
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reader, chigirl +, writes (29 May 2011):
Don't be fooled. This guy used every charmer trick in the book to flirt his way to you. Sure, he might think you're pretty, but he also thinks lots of other girls are pretty, and the "you're eyes have stars in them" line is both old and used.
Don't be gullible and naive. Enjoy the attention, but also know that this isn't faith. You got hit on by a guy, and he flirted with you. You probably didn't mention that you have a boyfriend either, because then the attention that you love would go away.
What you lack, or think you lack, in your relationship is to be swept of your feet every single day. Your boyfriend isn't some handsome stranger at a party. But that doesn't mean he's not a good match for you! If all you are interested in is handsome strangers, then you will never be able to have a steady relationship. You will just move from guy to guy, and quickly get bored.
This guy and you might have lots in common, but that says nothing of whether or not you'd make a good couple. My bet is that you'd end up missing your boyfriend if you left him, and he'd soon find himself a new girl, and then you'd be crying over why you let him go.
So my advice to you: hold on to your boyfriend and don't be so easily swayed. The only reason for breaking up with your boyfriend should be that you no longer wish to be with him, but want to be single. Never leave a man because you want to be with someone else, that will only ensure you end up with the wrong guy.
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