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writes:So in changing myself to frankly become more confident and attractive I am also trying to change my home. I own a 2 bedroom townhouse 2 story condo with a finished basement and a fully enclosed 14 X 16 foot patio. I have worked hard to refurbish it. I have natural relaxing colors with all cherry wood trim and cabinets every where and a good flow. Several friends have commented that it looks great but they seem to be leaving something out. So ladies my question is...If you were dating a good man what would you want his home to be like inside? Give me all opinions on all aspects of any room and what you would want in your mans home. Not what you want in your home but in your MANS home. What says confidence and attraction.
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (4 April 2011):
I think mostly clean and organized is all that I'd be looking for. What you've described sounds great. Everyone is looking for something different, so I don't think you can really change your home to be more attractive to women. As long as she doesn't walk in and get greeted by mice and cockroaches or a giant mantle of porn, I think you're good. And if you're looking for a long term relationship, if a girl moves in, she's going to want to add her touches and make changes so that the place looks like hers/both of yours anyways. So to sum up: - clean and tidy- no pictures up of exes- no obvious porn collection- just add your own personal touches (makes for some conversation and homey feel, say if you like art and have some paintings up, etc). Oh, and I think a lot of women like a man that cooks, so if you have a decent kitchen/kitchenware, that could be nice as well, and good for wooing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2011): Sadly all these material things dont bring abot confidence and attraction...Be careful you dont get obsessed with 'how things look' cos this is not what constitutes a good healthy relationship..How about asking him what HE wants as opposed to what you think he should want..Women get very controlling and overriding about a mans opinion, tastes etc cos they feel he is not really into that kind of thing and this should be their department...If it's his home, then it should be about him and not your friends or some random strangers who do not really know him...If you do know him well you might have an idea of his tastes but always seek his opinion first otherwise he may actually see it as a negative against you despite the fact you think you have good intentions....Remember it is HIS HOME and HE should be the one helping you create ideas...While it is okay to also get ideas here and there but ultimately his pleasure or approval is what matters...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2011): Like many things male, it's not the size or the dimensions, it's what you do with it. I like homes (and apartments) that look lived in and that showcase the dweller's personality and interests.
If it looks like particularly anonymous or too "put together," that's a bit of a turn off to me. Personalize your home with things that matter to you. Photos. Artwork. Gardening if that's your thing. I don't even mind a little messiness, so long as it looks like a home rather than a hotel suite.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (4 April 2011):
 Personally, neat and clean and a place that looks like he takes pride in it matters most...
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