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male
age
36-40,
*tj
writes:I've known her for 7 years. She's asked me if I have a girlfriend like 3 times, always touches me, hugs me, even kisses. She asked if I missed her, takes my food, laughs at every one of my very stupid jokes.She asked for my number, then she had no phone for years. She gave me her # when she got a new phone years later before she gave it to friends. I was so in love with her. I asked her out and she agreed. It never happened. I even told her that all she had to say was "no". She insisted she did, but nothing ever happened. What hurts most is that she's been single all these years. She's two years older but not allowed to go out that much. Maybe that was it? Maybe I took too long to ask her?I remember back when we 1st met, she used to come to my house all in make-up. I never saw her like that ever again. It's not a story like those "best-friends in love". We're good friends but not so that if she did reject me, she'd be losing the world's bff.It just hurts when I remember this. Can anyone attempt to explain this? She was hot, older, and still all this. Reply to this Question
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reader, btj +, writes (7 January 2010):
btj is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've tried to back off. I've been chasing other girls, I don't mope around. Still, Everytime she sees me...man. Tons of hugs, she called for my bday outta no where, everything. This makes me start thinking about her again.
She wouldn't stop talking to me once we got started.
It's because she's never said "no" to me. That'd be all I need. But thank you for answering! Guess the feeling will never really completely "go". Thanks.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2010): Well... led on places blame. Yes, she was interested and from what you say, seemed to be considering you... but both men and women do this. And till a single person decides not to commit to even a call, it is allowed. That is how I understand it.
If we know that the other person likes us more than we like them, we often take the person for granted and a little cruelly, tease them to their limits...
You need to back off completely and guard yourself. Find someone who's interested in you and forget about this girl, consciously. Otherwise there is no even footing for this relationship.
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