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female
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30-35,
*Charliix
writes:Hi there,Myself and my girlfriend have been together around 6 months now and its been brilliant. We're both very happy together and can see the relationship having a real chance of a future. When we first started dating we had that honeymoon period everyone has and couldn't keep our hands off each other and our sex life was fantastic. Now I know this feeling doesn't last forever, yet it should disappear completely should it?Since December last year my partner hasn't really initiated any sexual intimacy at all- once or twice when shes been drunk, after an argument etc. Majority of the time I have to initiate any intimacy. And when I say intimacy I don't mean just sex- kissing, cuddles, make out session- everything basically. To start with she'd respond and we'd have a bit of a snog or whatever I was initiating.. Yet around January time she'd start dismissing me and pushing me away, saying she was watching telly, playing on her phone, too tired or not in the mood. When I try to kiss her she'll either push me away or give me a peck on the check instead of on the lips, saying that if we make out it'll lead to sex- sometimes all you want is a bit of a passionate snog with your partner don't you??..Now initially I just accepted it and believed that she was tired or whatever. 3 months down the line, that excuse is getting a bit hard to accept. I've done some research of how to relight the passion and suggested some of the recommendations to my girlfriend. Every time I do, she gets angry and thinks their stupid.I've spoken to her quite a few times about this issue and most of the time she has got angry, told me to 'get over myself' and we've argued for several hours. So I feel that this issue isn't getting resolved and she expects me to push it under the carpet. She's told me that she doesn't know what it is that's stopping her, she goes to initiate it and then something stops her. I'm beginning to get a bit paranoid and suspicious. I know I shouldn't and I do trust her. But when your girlfriend pushes you away when you try and kiss her your going to start to wonder. Is there someone else? Does she not find me attractive anymore?.Please give me advice on how I can help her with her confidence or work out what it is that is causing her to not want any affection with me ...If you've followed my posts you'll find that a similar situation happened with my ex girlfriend. The intimacy completely disappeared and it turned out she didn't want to be with me and we split up a few months after. I'm so paranoid that this is going to happen again with my current partner, and I really don't want to lose her. Please Help..
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