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Known him a long time, drove to see him, great time, now back home, he does not initate contact, what are your thoughts?

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Question - (10 June 2009) 1 Answers - (Newest, 10 June 2009)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I've known this guy since middle school (We are in our early twenties now) but we had only kept in contact through facebook. We decided to meet up and after a few failed attempts (once my fault, once his) I drove to see him. It was really casual, but he was very interested in finding out everything I had been up too. I met his friends and we hung out at several places. We went to a bar and a party and no matter where we were at he was soley focused on me. We ended up getting really drunk and hooking up... sort of (This is not my style at all - he's only the second person i've been with in two years.) We ended up just laying there all cuddled up and talking about our lives and our families for a couple of hours. It was great. But I had to jet really early in the morning despite him asking me to stay the night and hang out durin the day.

I gave him a kiss as I was leaving and he told me to call him soon. I called that evening to apologize for having to leave and we had a good (but quick) conversation. He said I'd have to come back up soon so he could show me around more and that he'd be in my town soon for work as well. He asked if I'd had a good time and I said yes. He agreed he did too. When I made a suggestion for meeting up the next weekend he said maybe depending on work but we'd figure something out.

I sent him a quick text two days later to tell him good luck with something but kept it short... he responded immediatly, and then I said "I'm sure I'll talk to you soon".

Okay so here's my question - What the hell does this mean? I'm trying to play coy because I don't want to scare the hell out of him when I'm not ready to jump into anything either - BUT I am interested in hanging out more. He hasn't iniciated contact with me, but said he wanted me to come back up when I called him. Oh - and one of his friends messaged me and said when I come back I needed to bring girls - which implied he was expecting me to come back. I overthink everything and need some perspective. Any suggestions?

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A female reader, alishamarie08 United States +, writes (10 June 2009):

I'm kinda in your same situtation so this the advice I can give!!! The rule in the situtation is if he isn't calling he isn't interested in dating you or he would have already!!! Don't ask someone and see if there's an exception and hope that it will change. You need to stick to the rule!!! And move on with life if he decides to jump on your train he will!

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