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writes: I have been dating the love of my life for 8 months now after spending 2 yrs to win her heart, but in that 8 months, I have been a drunken fool and kissed another girl 3 times, not telling my girlfriend until after the third time.She is naturally heartbroken and confused, not questioning our love but the strength of our relationship and how, even if drunk, i could kiss another. I have no answer for as it was just a momentary kiss, BUT it was three times.I don't want to lose my girlfriend, she means everything to me, but how can she trust me or look at me the same? I wouldn't want her living in fear that I do this again and I am prepeared to do anything to rebuild her trust. I hate myself for this but want to make everything OK. How can this be done?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2005): First of all you need to tell her you have grown up, accepted some responsibility and you have learnt something about alcohol. This can happen by reading on...Alcohol affects the part of your brain that deals with common sense. It can let you do things that are not rational or sensible. Have you ever heard of Sodium Pentathol? It is a so called 'truth drug'.. what all your spies in movies are injected with to get them to give up secrets... think about your school chemistry lesson and you will recognise the 'ol' ending. It is just a form of alcohol and deliberately afects the same part of the brain. It reduces inhibitions and makes you more suseptable to getting off with innapropriate females or selling out your allies incognito behind enemy lines. You do not see the consequences.Now you know this, you now accept that you have NO EXCUSE in being drunk and getting however slightly, but knowingly wrongly involved with other people. If you know you have a tendancy to act innapropriately with a drink in you then you cannot blame 'the drink'. It was your choice to drink in the first place, knowing that this was a risk. You were being irresponsible.Don't be stupid and put yourself in harms way again! Promise this and keep your promise, give her some time. It will work out ok.Here endeth the lesson.
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