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writes:i went out with my coworkers one night for drinks...our group has been hanging out alot lately...the other night we were all out drinking..and me and one coworker were talking all night...and being flirty..we kissed..and basically kissed all night..he texted me the next asking me how i felt..and we chatted a little bit..he kept saying that the night before was a good time..asked me the next time i was working..and i asked him if we were cool..and he replied with yeah we are and that last night was fun. Does he like me? what should I do when I see him? i don't want things to be awkward..help!
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reader, fam23 +, writes (4 October 2009):
fam23 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok so this whole drama has gotten deeper than ever expected. its like a real soap opera! but here it goes after my last post..i went on vacation..when i came back basically everything was cool..he was still talking to me..but i started noticing more and more often how he was around this manager who was married. he was so different..during the work hours i would rarely see him..very odd...and she would be missing too. no other managers were around cuz it was the weekend. so after a few weekends it became more apparent not only to me ..but everyone else that there was something going on. so finally i got it out of his best friend what was realy happening..who also works there...he told me that everyone at work knows..and that these two have been seeing eachother for a few months..u know when he was flirting with me..hooking up with me..asking me to hangout. i was so dissapointed that i was indirectly involved in this.he has been acting so strange lately..like i never see him during work..when i do barely makes eye contact..barely says hi. and seems down all the time. basically his best friend told him that i knew what was going on..and he confronted me one day..and denied the whole thing...lied to my face..i told him that i just wanted my friend back..that he has been really weird..he told me he was going back to the old him. but idkk what do...aside from yes i did like him..i jsut want hiim to be the old person..i feel like this married woman is bringing him down..with her own personal drama..and i know its his fault..and i know that i should not be involved..but it bothers me so much. how do i keep myself out of this?? please help?
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reader, fam23 +, writes (6 September 2009):
fam23 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your help..thats what i did yesterday when all this was happening..he still tried to flirt with me..but i was not having any of it. i will definitely keep following your advice. THANKS SO MUCH for all your help.
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reader, fam23 +, writes (6 September 2009):
fam23 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionso heres the update on this situation..so this guy and i have been hanging out basically every week since my last post. i have realized that we are just friends, and I'm ok with that now. I know he does not like me, because by this time he would have asked me out, and he hasn't. He still acts the same way though, to me he is just a flirt. now here is where the twist of the story comes..my friend asked his best friend if he liked me..and he said he didn't know and he asked her if i liked him..and she said she didn't know..and he was like well he is talking to another girl..the following weekend we went out..and he was all over me..i just tried to play it off...and while we were talking his friends pulled my best friend aside and were telling her how he was obsessed with someone at work..and my friend replied like ohh yeah she knows..and they were surprised that i knew. so i finally found out who the girl was..and its one of our managers..shes like 3 years older than us..and shes married!his best friend asked me "do you think there is something going on with them?" i said idk...and today at work...they were both disappeared on different occasions, he was in her office and basically making things obvious..that a couple of my other co-workers mentioned something about the situation. I don't know exactly whats going on..but the fact that she is married and he attended the wedding..just makes me feel disgusted..and she is a newlywed.I'm just dissapointed in him..thought he would be better than that....I'm really don't know what to do with this new situation..please help!
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reader, fam23 +, writes (2 August 2009):
fam23 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo after that night..we saw eachother a few days later and everything was good..he was even flirty. my friend told me that he asks where i am or if im working at work ..we also went to the shore like that same week with one of my friends. we were alone for like 2 hours, but he didn't make a move or anything. and we went out the following weekend with a bunch of ooworkes, i felt like when i was there i was the center of conversation, but i just kept it cool. they were taking a lot of pictures of us, his good friend, was like that's ur guy right there, u made him happy last week and blah blah blah, basically trying to hook us up the whole night. he was being really flirty and cute. He was drunk, and i had to drive him home, he asked me what i was looking for like dating wise. We hooked up, and i thought it was going to be weird at work..but it hasn't at all. its basically the same..just that we haven't made plans to hang out. We were suppose to go to the shore but him and his friend over slept, and he called me all day trying to figure out other plans, but after that we haven't made plans. do u think im like over analyzing this? do u think he likes me? or he's just being nice? please tell me ur input!
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reader, fam23 +, writes (2 August 2009):
fam23 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo after that night..we saw eachother a few days later and everything was good..he was even flirty. my friend told me that he asks where i am or if im working at work ..we also went to the shore like that same week with one of my friends. we were alone for like 2 hours, but he didn't make a move or anything. and we went out the following weekend with a bunch of ooworkes, i felt like when i was there i was the center of conversation, but i just kept it cool. they were taking a lot of pictures of us, his good friend, was like that's ur guy right there, u made him happy last week and blah blah blah, basically trying to hook us up the whole night. he was being really flirty and cute. He was drunk, and i had to drive him home, he asked me what i was looking for like dating wise. We hooked up, and i thought it was going to be weird at work..but it hasn't at all. its basically the same..just that we haven't made plans to hang out. We were suppose to go to the shore but him and his friend over slept, and he called me all day trying to figure out other plans, but after that we haven't made plans. do u think im like over analyzing this? do u think he likes me? or he's just being nice? please tell me ur input!
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reader, fam23 +, writes (2 August 2009):
fam23 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo after that night..we saw eachother a few days later and everything was good..he was even flirty. my friend told me that he asks where i am or if im working at work ..we also went to the shore like that same week with one of my friends. we were alone for like 2 hours, but he didn't make a move or anything. and we went out the following weekend with a bunch of ooworkes, i felt like when i was there i was the center of conversation, but i just kept it cool. they were taking a lot of pictures of us, his good friend, was like that's ur guy right there, u made him happy last week and blah blah blah, basically trying to hook us up the whole night. he was being really flirty and cute. He was drunk, and i had to drive him home, he asked me what i was looking for like dating wise. We hooked up, and i thought it was going to be weird at work..but it hasn't at all. its basically the same..just that we haven't made plans to hang out. We were suppose to go to the shore but him and his friend over slept, and he called me all day trying to figure out other plans, but after that we haven't made plans. do u think im like over analyzing this? do u think he likes me? or he's just being nice? please tell me ur input!
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