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writes:Ok so I happen to unexpectedly find myself at the point of a love triangle of sorts… For all intensive purposes we will call them William and Alexander. William’s pros: he and I have very similar senses of humor and get along extremely well, when I’m with him I feel secure. I have had a few moments where life overwhelmed me and I got stressed out, he handled it near perfectly… knew exactly what to do without me saying anything. He has a house of his own, a decent job, and isn’t afraid to work hard to get what he wants or needs.His cons: he is 10 years older then I am, he and I don’t always see eye to eye on things, we have a few differing views on things like religion ect. he can sometimes be the rain on my parade because he is more laid back then I am… I like to randomly decide to go to a park of a walk or go out and do something, where he is the type that enjoys staying home and hanging out more, not to say he doesn’t like to go out… and last but not least he lives 8 hours away from me.Alexander’s pros: he and I have the same sarcastic ways… we pick on each other all the time, but it’s in an endearing and playful way… I love it. He and I have the same religious views. He is easy to talk with, I’m not reluctant to talk to him about anything, and we’ve been through a lot of the same stuff. We both love to travel and go on adventures. He only lives 2 hours away. He is as random as I am, doing stuff like skipping down the sidewalk instead of walking, going to carnivals ect.His cons: he doesn’t have a stable job (he is looking for one). He doesn’t really have any plans for the future, he has a more go with the flow personality (which isn’t a con it’s just the reason for the no future plans). And my best friend has a slight crush on him… Though it wouldn’t ruin her and my friendship if he and I got together, it would create a bit of tension for a while though.They are two completely different people… with William I will have security, and a set future… with Alex I have adventure, fun, and freedom… I don’t have the personality for a long distance relationship, and I’m not really sure if I want to be tied down like I will be if I am with William. But I’m unsure as to where I relationship would go with Alexander… how long it would last and what not… he is the unknown I guess.I don’t know who to choose… please help…Side notes: Alexander is only a couple years older then me. I have known both of them for about the same amount of time.
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reader, shellyagal +, writes (3 August 2010):
A goal keeper already has a goal but that doesn't mean he/she don't goal anymore. Hope you got my point. "Love is in the air, everywhere I look around, Love is in the air, every sight and every sound." Try out if the other person loves you the same way as you do. You can send an anonymous crush to your heart throb using AAfter Search. Your identity will only be disclosed if your crush feels the same way as you do. Here is what you need to write in the search box- crush:your email: email of crush 1 : email of crush 2 : email of crush 3 then click Enter. Let the magic of love begin.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2010): I'm gonna have to say Alex but you really need to imagine for a moment that all of the material things about them are gone (eg. career and distance between where you live). If none of that was there who would you want to be with?
That be said, if you do not want a long-distance relationship, don't get with Will. Alex seems more like your kinda guy anyway if you have more in common.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2010): BTW, you didn't mention anything about sex, so I'm guessing both are fine, or you aren't sexually active with either. Either way, good for you for evaluating them on their true assets, and not the sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2010): This is a common occurence...the older guy offers stability and strength, the younger offers fun and spontenaeity. Where are YOU at in life? Do you need stability or fun at this point, because honey, I can tell you, you probably aren't going to marry either one. So choose the one who feels more "right" in your heart for now. And don't add the distance thing or the GF's crush...those are external factors to your feelings and can be overcome if you want to.If you want my off the cuff suggestion, I'd say Alexander. He sounds more like you from what you describe, and the tone of your explanation leans to him. The one thing you did not think about was you dont know how Alexander will turn out, whereas you kind of do with William. Alex may find a fabulous career and future...or he may not. So consider this. But at your age, with the way you sound, you are not ready to settle down...so I'd opt for the fun guy your age.
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