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writes:my friend and I have known each other for 2 yrs. we hang out together, initially he wanted more than a friendship with me but I had told him I wanted to stay friends only. Then I got involved with another guy but the relationship didn't work out. In the meantime, he also got involved with another girl but she dumped him. Now we're meeting again and he keeps complimenting me. We are getting closer and yesterday we were making out and as I wanted to take things further he said that he doesn't want to have sex with me as he doesn't want to have sex with me just for fun. He told me he cares too much for me and doesn't want to use me. I felt that he let me down as he was leading me on and then stopped. I asked him whether it's because of this girl he was seeing and he said that he can't forget her. I'm so confused now, I don't know whether I should keep meeting up with him as a friend or limit time I spend with him. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the answers.
He texted me 2 days ago and told me that he's sorry that he seems to have let me down (he was referring to the last time we met when we got close and he suddenly backed off). I told him that I was let down but that I do respect his decision and he then just said 'thanks'.
I haven't tried to text him again as I want to give him space so that he can get over his ex...if he ever does (since they work together and see each other all the time)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2009): i think you should just meet him agian. it seems you want an relationship with him, but he dont want to rush into sex as he has respect on his body and you.
Just see how it goes for a couple off weeks and if you are ready to be in a relationship try and work on it.
But just dont lead him onto sex just not yet.
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reader, the bear  +, writes (1 November 2009):
Look sugar, you have a right to enjoy making out! ( It's exciting, fun, etc. )Him leading you on? I must admit that's a switch - it's usually the other way around! I'm guessing you enjoyed the leading as it were! Don't talk to him about wanting more, guys HATE that talk! Just perform, as it were. So if you still want to have sex with him "accidently" brush your hand against his penis through his pants when things get a bit exciting, or, if in a standing embrace, slide against his erection with your body almost as if that was an accident. When he begins pushing back you've probably got him in a few dates!Eventually you may be able to give him a sexual release with your hand/mouth. If that works, it should not be many more dates with this action before he begins to explore YOU! And if nothing else happens, well, time to begin moving on. You can still get with him in the future - - -.
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