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writes:*OP's original question,Okay, My story is one of those "created a fake account and fell in love" ones :[Alright so letsee, Long story short, 3 years ago I made an account on myspace to get back at this one girl, but It was going to be a joke so I used another girl's pictures and a different name. I ended up not even doing the whole revenge thing and instead got addicted to myspace by talking to people that added the account. It became a fun thing to do to pass the time, it seemed pretty harmless I mean it was just innocent communication between people. That is until "he" came along. I just KNEW he was going to be like everyone else I had talked to but the more we talked the more I ended up falling for him. He was so amazing and we matched perfectly it was too good to be true. The only thing was that I had met him while I was hiding behind a mask :[ The more I talked to him, the more I got attached and we ended up dating (BAD i know! I let my heart get the best of me). We shared everything and always talked 24/7, we fought, we had intimate moments and that just made us closer and it also made it harder for me to risk losing it all telling him the truth. So a year later I couldnt stand it anymore, him calling me by another name and thinking I looked like someone else (even though it was my fault for presenting it all to him) I wanted him to know the truth and I wanted him to hear it from me instead of letting it drag on til the day he found out himself or got suspicious. So I wrote him a letter explaining it all and even showed him my real facebook. Of course he was shocked and he wanted to talk on the phone to clear up a few questions. We did and he was pretty calm about it,we ended up braking it off and he also said that he didnt want to cut communication.Since then we've had pretty minimal contact, i've read that in this situation you just have to give them time to get used to it all. When we do talk its just simple chit chat or an exchange of emoticons.He poked me on facebook a couple of times but never added me. He also added a friend of mine that I had told him about. He keeps sending mixed signals though I guess because he was still emotionally attached.Its been almost 2 months since then and he's reduced contact almost to none. I had asked him if we could talk because I had something to ask him but he ignored me, a week later I asked him if he wanted to cut contact or needed more time but he didnt reply to that either. I don't want to bother him and I don't want to come off as annoying or psychotic but honestly in this situation its almost impossible not to feel that way! He won't tell me directly what he wants and that confuses me the most. Also that he told me he didnt want to cut contact but he stopped replying to me, I just don't know what to do or think. I really do have strong feelings for him and I really want to start fresh with him :[ I know I screwed up and betrayed him :[so I guess my question is, any input on the situation?? any would be much appreciated. Thankyou for reading! :]
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reader, xanonomouz +, writes (25 May 2010):
xanonomouz is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyouuu for the responses :]
I really do want to write a letter so maybe he'd give me some sort of closure or whatever, I mean its really hard to move on in a situation when you havent been rejected because you don't know whether or not you should move on or give them a bit more time. In other words I don't know if he'll come around eventually or if he's trying to forget me :[ But I don't want to be stuck in the dark while he moves on in his life. So I wanted to write that letter, who knows what'll happen but the problem is how do I send it :/ I don't want to overannoy him and come as a creepy stalker and he ends up ignoring that too. Ugh this sucks! x[
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reader, Blod  +, writes (23 May 2010):
 Wow... I guess you won't be doing anything like that again!
In response to your question, this is a difficult situation! Imagine how you'd feel if someone did that to you. You'd be shocked, disappointed, angry, sad, annoyed, the list goes on. The way he's reacted shows that he likes you though, but this has totally knocked the trust between you two and he must feel that he doesn't know who you are anymore. By not replying to you, he's probably trying to deny that you're there and how he's feeling so that he can move on.
If you really want him back then I suggest you go straight with him. I think a letter would be best. Tell him that you really like him, regret what you've done and would like a fresh start. Say also that he's confusing you and you want a straight answer either way so that you can move on. Make sure it's straight to the point and no messing. I don't know whether it'll work but you may as well try.
Good luck with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2010): You screwed him over for a year. If you'd told him after two months I think that you'd still be able to talk and stuff, but now I think that the damage has been dealt and you probably wont recover it.
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