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writes:Okay, so I just turned 18, and my boss is 23. I just realized my feelings for him about 2 weeks ago. We flirt back and forth, playful jokes and gestures... But how do I know he's not just goofy like that with everyone? should i say something? Im trying to get a new job so i can tell him how i feel and never have to see him again if i get shot down... is 5 years too much of an age difference?? Help :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2009): I agree with the earlier post - except 5 years is not that big a deal - especially if the girl is younger - I know that sounds sexist but it's true. If you are attracted to him and he to you what does the age matter? You should let him know - worst case is that he doesn't return the feelings - he'll still be flattered over the attention - just like you would be if some guy said it to you - as long as you act cool over the rejection it shouldn't be too weird after the first couple of weeks - on other hand - it may turn out great and you will have a special relationship or fun memories for when you do settle down. You are young - you get to be adventurous and a risk taker (of course with healty limits)
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reader, happyhello  +, writes (7 August 2009):
 i think you should text him and say something like "are you flirting with me or are you just like that with everyone? dont get the wrong idea, im just curious". that way it takes away pressure from being face to face, and if he says no it doesnt sound like you wanted him. if i was in this situation and i had feelings for a colleague thats what i'd say. i think you should pursue it if the feelings are strong enough, but with two workmates having relationships you might have to find another job anyway but i wouldn't move just because you're affraid of getting shot down. just make it seem like you're neutral on liking him and ask him that way.
5 years is a big age gap if you think about it. he was starting school when you were born. although, you are 18 so its not that weird i guess, i think you should go for it.
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