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writes:I need your advice as a newlywed. Married my LDR boyfriend few mths ago and sldo expecting. He has not fully relocated due to things he has to take care of. He left 2wks after our wedding.Last week he hinted he wanted to come and spend a week with me and preggers and go bk again to pack the rest of his stuff.I immediately blurted out it was a waste of money and he should stay put. I didn't know he took it personal till now like i supposedly don't miss him like he does. Should i have neen more passionate with him in declining this visit? I'm concerned because in between conversation he mentioned that he doesn't really feellike i enjoy sex with him. He is totally wrong. I love our sex. I don't initiate like he wants me to but ive never turned down his advances. Im actually shocked he feels this way. When he's around we sex everyday so...Anyways now my rejecting his short visit brings him back to his assumption that i don't long for him.What can i do to change his thoughts? Obviously being pregnant theres little i can do to turn up. Every man ive been with don't question my sexual desires. Its always obvious to yhem. Why then does the man i married feel this way!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAll of my relationship has been LDR. Unfortunately i suck in bring the first to initiate sex because all my exes wanted it so bad with me, they just come on strong. If his problem is that he doesn't feel desired then he's joking. I have so much on my plate. He is moving here. All he is doing is moving. Another reason why may not be quick to grope him is because as of now i feel like playing more of the man role as the provider. All my exes provided for me so when i sex them its a way to show appreciation. On valentine's day i didn't even get a card. I got one text thats it. If he is not romantic with me how do i get romantic with him. He needs to start romancing me more then ill br turned on enough to pounce on his sexiness. Right now maybe i just don't have the urge because of all the hats I'm wearing trying to bring him over to start a family.
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reader, RitaVida +, writes (25 June 2015):
Has every man you've been with been LDR?
Tell him what you're telling us. That you do want him but you're just trying to look out fot yourselves as a budding expectant couple.
As far as initiating, I haven't met a man yet who doesnt appreciate it. What stops you from initiating more?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2015): He's a bit insecure.
Talk to him about both topics and explain like you did to us. It's not your job to reassure him but I always think that sometimes reassurance is ok. It's ok to make the first move in sex sometimes too. Make him feel desired
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