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writes:I dated my ex for a couple of years. I thought she was the absolute love of my life. But the relationship had many problems, and she wound up breaking my heart. I was devastated by the breakup and never thought I'd get through it. I felt completely crushed. Then as time passed, it started to get easier. I eventually met another girl completely out of the blue who I instantly hit it off with. There was insane physical attraction and we just laugh and laugh when we are together. Being with her is so easy. There's no conflict and we just get along so incredibly well. It felt great and I was certain that the relationship was heading towards becoming official. I was even thinking about asking her to be my gf when suddenly, my ex popped back up out of nowhere. I never thought I'd hear from her again. She begged and begged for another chance. Said she discovered that while being apart, I was the only one for her. That breaking up was the biggest mistake she's ever made and how if I only gave her a second chance, she would give me her everything. I felt sick over it. How could she just reappear like that after I'd started to move on?? And after I'd met someone I actually really liked? I know she didn't know about this other girl, just as a side note. That wasn't her motivation. But it just felt so unfair. Now I'm left with a terrible decision to make. Do I take my ex back and give it one last go? Or do I pick this new girl and give it a shot? She seems so awesome. I would genuinely hate to let go of the new girl and discover my ex is full of it and regret the decision. But I also considered my ex the love of my life, so if she has actually changed, I'd hate to miss the opportunity for reconciliation. She meant the world to me. I'm sick over this and don't know what to do. I'm not a player who dates more than one woman. So this is uncomfortable, as there are currently two women who want my attention at the moment. I know I have to pick one. who do I choose?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2014): You've already said how you had many problems in your last relationships. They'll simply resurface again if you get back together without changing anything.
Stay with the new girl and completely go no contact with your ex so that you can fully invest yourself in the new relationship.
You gave it your best shot the first time round with the ex. Accept that it didn't work out.
Do decide quickly because this limbo will kill your relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2014): I could never get back with someone who broke my heart. I would never be able to trust him.
Be careful, what you think you feel for her may just be an illusion. Sometimes rejection make us more keen.
Don't let anyone control your life.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (28 November 2014):
 Do you know that game known as "Smack-a-mole"????
Well... consider that your ex- is one of those moles..... and every time you find her popping up and showing up in your mind.... mentally smack her with your mental hammer... and, then, GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE!!!!! .... with your new girl....
Good luck...
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